How to Tell When Being Right is Just Plain Wrong – Step 5

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From Jon G. – “I have been very judgmental of others lately. It has not served me well lately because it has enabled me to leave several meetings early. I sit and listen to a speaker and before long I judge …”

Today’s SFZ

The Judgement is the Mirror – Dalis Car (4:36)

Funny Lessons in Judging Too Quickly (0:31)

Slowing the Mind & Ending Judgement Meditation (8:03)

How have your judgments of others or the feeling of being judged adversely affected you, lately?

Why Always Being Right Can Be Wrong

It all started in elementary school. You remember the kid who thought he or she had the answer to every question, right? They interrupted others, always wanted to have the last word, and even had to be right on the playground. Unfortunately, the workforce is not all that much different. Many of those know-it-alls never seem to change. In fact, one might be sitting across the room from you right now, or even worse, they’re in the corner office down the hall. You know who they are, and if you don’t, the problem might be even bigger. The know-it-all might be you.

Is it possible to be seemingly know everything except the fact that you’re a know-it-all? Self-diagnose by asking yourself this simple question: “Do I think I’m always right?” Give an honest answer—no caveats. You may not want to admit it, but if you catch yourself justifying it, (I am the senior partner, so of course I’m right!), then you have a problem. Always being right can be wrong. It can turn people against you, stifle conversations and ideas, and make people want to avoid you altogether. Read on to discover the classic reasons why you might feel like you can never be wrong—and how to master your mindset so you don’t embody typical know-it-all pitfalls. (https://www.forbes.com/sites/davidsturt/2016/11/02/why-always-being-right-can-be-wrong/#71f176ac6b8b)

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6 responses to “How to Tell When Being Right is Just Plain Wrong – Step 5”

August 3, 2019

Damonte

My judgement of others has effected me negatively throughout my life. I have sold myself short on friendships, dates, and any other type of relationships due to judgment on others. Due to proper programming i don’t have to judge anyone anymore and that relief and work of self love is most appreciated. If I love myself then i don’t have to give anything but love to others. The inside job that comes from the work of the steps helps keep me in a place of sanity and love for others and gratefulness, im taught to also keep my side of the street clean and not have to pass any judgement on anyone else. This is a daily reprieve.

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August 7, 2018

Tony O.

“Heretic” the earth is flat. Sometimes being right can get you killed. Sometimes its easier to catch flies with honey.

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August 3, 2018

Simon Yebio

When I feel a collage is focused on Me, I have overly judged they’re side. Great read this morning.

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August 2, 2018

Bohdi Baba

I’m trying to learn Walt Whitman’s lesson. Because sometimes I am right. But I can come off as being judgemental when trying to make my point. I don’t think I come off as being a know-it-all all the time, but when making my case I could, try and spread … warm, gentle rays of sunlight on the situation.

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November 5, 2012

Jon G.

I have been very judgmental of others lately. It has not served me well lately because it has enabled me to leave several meetings early. I sit and listen to a speaker and before long I judge that they are not sharing about recovery or don’t have anything to say that is worthwhile to sit and listen to. Once I slip into this frame of mind it is only a matter of time before I convince myself that I don’t need to stay til the end of the meeting or that my time would be better spent somewhere else rather than staying and listening to the rest of their pitch.

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November 3, 2012

Adam

Judgement of others rarely serves me well except in the case of steering clear of people that appear to not be healthy to my own well-being. Some judgement is a protection mechanism. But it is judgement that is clearly beyond protection that just becomes hateful and self-destructive. Someone told me homes are being bought up by Chinese with cash so they are competing with me in my home search. Now when I see an Asian looking at home I’m interested in, anger starts to rise and I have to put that in check and realize these people may be American citizens looking for their own home.

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