How to Identify the “Flaws which Sometimes were Responsible for the Whole Pattern of our Lives.”

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“We can go far beyond those things which were superficially wrong with us, to see those flaws which were basic, flaws which sometimes were responsible for the whole pattern of our lives.” (12 & 12, p. 80)

Today’s Full SFZ

Can’t Hold Us – Macklemore (7:04)

Morning Bird over the Horizon Meditation (5:33)

Which patterns in your life have you been able to see more clearly, lately?

“3. Know that your expectations, not other people, cause disappointment.
Some of our expectations are not realistic, and in some cases, it isn’t our partner’s job to meet them.

Not knowing our expectations is a deadly trap that creates tension and resentment.

I felt shame when I tried to say, “But you didn’t call me after work before you went off to have drinks with your co-workers.” So instead, I would do the same to him in order to give him a taste of his own medicine.

He had no idea that I expected that from him. He would have if I had known it myself and communicated it. But I didn’t. Instead, I reacted. Deep inside I knew that it was an act of control and it was childish. My hidden expectations slowly pulled us apart. …”

“If we are unable to look at ourselves and be honest about our pain and how that fuels our behavior, we will keep repeating the same patterns.

I don’t know about you, but that got old for me, and I had to own my own fear of abandonment in order to untangle myself from this pattern.” (https://tinybuddha.com/blog/change-your-patterns-and-stop-sabotaging-relationships/)

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6 responses to “How to Identify the “Flaws which Sometimes were Responsible for the Whole Pattern of our Lives.””

September 1, 2020

Joel Relampagos

We can’t control our thoughts but we can control how we RESPOND to our thoughts. What coping tools do you turn to when you have a negative thought?

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August 29, 2018

Simon Yebio

My relationship pattern and sex. I’m totally clueless. I need to go back and read my sexuality inventory…

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August 28, 2011

JB jr.

Fountains of hope and serenity are pretty much what I expect from the steps. And as I recall, my youth wasn’t all that serene anyways.

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August 28, 2011

Easy Does It

Mr. Barleycorn u can always turn a hydrant gusher into a fountain of youth…

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August 27, 2011

raretruthseeker

Marianne Williamson compares the way the egg rises up to meet the sperm (Scientists witness this happening under a microscope) to the way that we must rise up and meet God on the level that he is vibrating to offer us our highest possible unfolding at any moment.

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1. August 28, 2011
  
  JB jr.
  
  I love that comparison. Today at PSLA they noted that its a New Moon. Which means, according to farmers from the beginning of time, is the best time to plant seeds; seeds of intention for our purposes.
  
  So I did exactly that, wrote on a piece of paper what I want most for myself, from a spiritual perspective. Mainly to be loving and to speak with clarity and purpose.
  
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