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Let’s Make this Father’s Day a True Celebration of Love and Forgiveness – Step 3

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Bodhi Baba

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“Forgiveness is not
always easy. At times,
it feels more painful than
the wound we suffered, to
forgive the one that in-
flicted it. And yet, there
is no peace without
forgiveness.”

— Marianne Williamson (1952 – ) Spiritual teacher / author

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What work have you done to resolve any lingering resentments you have held toward the father -like figures in your life lately?

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Why is it important to forgive someone, even if they have hurt us badly?

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Today’s SFZ for Father’s Day often stirs complicated feelings, especially in families affected by addiction, trauma, or abandonment. Step 3 asks us to turn our will and lives over to a power greater than ourselves. For many, that step also means confronting memories of hurt caused by a father figure. The Big Book (p. 106) reveals raw moments when families endured chaos and pain. Yet despite the violence, loved ones still tried to protect the idea of the father. That speaks to our deep need to belong and forgive.

Forgiveness, however, is not easy. Marianne Williamson writes, “There is no peace without forgiveness.” Her words echo the message from Life with Hope (p. 41), which insists that we learn to forgive even before we feel like it. Psychologist Fred Luskin, who directs Stanford’s Forgiveness Project, affirms this too. He teaches that forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. We don’t excuse harm, but we let go of resentment for our healing.

This idea aligns with Brené Brown’s work. She urges us to show up honestly, even when it hurts. When we act with courage, we stop hiding our pain. This is how we break cycles.

Finally, recovery calls us to shape our relationship with a Higher Power. As Tolstoy said, the heart of spirituality lies in asking why we exist. Step 3 invites us to trust something bigger than ourselves, even as we redefine what love and fatherhood truly mean.

 

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4 responses to “Let’s Make this Father’s Day a True Celebration of Love and Forgiveness – Step 3”

  1. Elexi W.S.A. Avatar
    Elexi W.S.A.

    My father wasn’t there much, and I guess being multi-gendered it doesn’t feel like I fit into one gender anyways like a son with father or mother with daughter like scenario all the way. My father was only talked to on the phone and every blue moon, and now not really at all we would have an outing at a vegan restaurant. I think there is at least a status quo I need to keep up when knowing a father is around though as well. I don’t think they’d want to see me doing some of the things I secretly did in the streets.

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  2. Eli🌱 Avatar
    Eli🌱

    Forgiveness is selfish. It’s to heal yourself, not others. To forgive yourself, but not to expect others to forgive you. Amends don’t deserve forgiveness, either. They’re for the person who has done harm to forgive themself.

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  3. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Forgiveness sets the prisoner free, with the understanding that the prisoner is me.

    Being mad at someone and carrying that anger is one of the big mistakes and energy wastes of all time. Being made at someone and expecting atone for their behavior, they likely do not even know I am mad. So who does that anger hurt? Me. They can be out there having a great day not aware that anyone is mad at them, yet, I carry that flag for the injustice done to me with a rightous pride expecting justice.

    I chose to lay down my burden and forgive, knowing that my forgiveness doesn’t let anyone off the hook except for my own burden of expectations. That is freedom.

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  4. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    In order for me to heal I have to let go of the resentment and forgive. Finding my part in it is just as important. Now I may not have a part in it still I forgive and even if I don’t feel anything from it I have done it I have said it and now it’s time to move on….next case…

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