Why Inventories Matter Even though We’ve been Doing “Just Fine” Thus Far – Step 4 begins

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“Why work the Fourth Step? After all, we’ve been able to stay clean so far.” (It Works How & Why, p. 26)

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What instincts have caused you to feel pain and shame, lately?

OR

What happens when we ignore our feelings instead of learning from them?

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Step Four invites deep reflection. It asks us to examine our motives, not just our behavior. It Works: How and Why challenges complacency. It questions the idea that “just staying clean” is enough. Sophocles, in Antigone, reminds us that instinct alone cannot guide us rightly. We must also learn.

Bill Wilson, co-founder of AA, explores this dilemma in Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. He writes that instincts—like desire, fear, or pride—can mislead us. These instincts serve us until they dominate us. Then they become dangerous. They block growth. They block healing.

Psychologist Carl Jung believed that true healing comes from integration. This means knowing the shadow parts of ourselves. Step Four gives us a tool to do that. It forces us to face the truths we often hide.

James Baldwin once wrote, “Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced.” This aligns with the Fourth Step. To grow, we must name what is within us. We must stop hiding from it.

Today’s SFZ show us that instincts are not enough. They must be examined. Left unchecked, they can harm us. But when we learn from them, we gain wisdom.

Sophocles, Wilson, and modern recovery literature agree: self-inventory leads to freedom. It keeps instincts from becoming liabilities.


Spanish Translation of Quotes:

Paso Cuatro –

“Hicimos un minucioso y valiente inventario moral de nosotros mismos.”

EL DILEMA –

“¿Por qué trabajar el Cuarto Paso? Después de todo, hemos podido mantenernos limpios hasta ahora.”
(Funciona: Cómo y Por Qué, p. 26)

LA SOLUCIÓN –

“Casi todos los problemas emocionales graves pueden verse como casos de instintos mal dirigidos.”
“Poderosamente, a ciegas, muchas veces de manera sutil, nos impulsan, nos dominan y exigen gobernar nuestras vidas.”
“Cuando eso ocurre, nuestros grandes activos naturales, los instintos, se han convertido en pasivos físicos y mentales.”
(Doce y Doce, p. 42)

“La condición ideal sería, admito, que los hombres actuaran correctamente por instinto;
pero como es probable que todos nos equivoquemos, lo razonable es aprender de quienes pueden enseñar.”

– Sófocles


Spanish Translation of the Analysis:

El Cuarto Paso nos invita a reflexionar profundamente. Nos pide examinar nuestros motivos, no solo nuestras acciones.
Funciona: Cómo y Por Qué cuestiona la complacencia. Nos pregunta si “mantenerse limpio” es suficiente.
Sófocles, en Antígona, nos recuerda que el instinto por sí solo no basta. También debemos aprender.

Bill Wilson explora este dilema en Doce Pasos y Doce Tradiciones. Él explica que los instintos, como el deseo o el miedo, pueden engañarnos.
Nos sirven, pero si nos controlan, nos dañan. Bloquean el crecimiento. Bloquean la sanación.

El psicólogo Carl Jung creía que la sanación ocurre al integrar nuestras partes ocultas. El Cuarto Paso nos ayuda a hacerlo.
Nos obliga a enfrentar las verdades que negamos.

James Baldwin dijo: “No todo lo que se enfrenta puede cambiarse. Pero nada puede cambiar hasta que se enfrente.”
Eso se alinea con el Cuarto Paso. Para crecer, debemos nombrar lo que sentimos. Debemos dejar de ocultarlo.

Estos mensajes nos enseñan que los instintos deben ser examinados. Si no, pueden hacernos daño.
Pero si aprendemos de ellos, obtenemos sabiduría.

Sófocles, Wilson y la literatura de recuperación coinciden: el autoexamen nos libera.
Evita que nuestros instintos se conviertan en pasivos.

¿Qué pasa cuando ignoramos nuestros sentimientos en vez de aprender de ellos?

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9 responses to “Why Inventories Matter Even though We’ve been Doing “Just Fine” Thus Far – Step 4 begins”

  1. Eli🌱 Avatar
    Eli🌱

    It’s easier for me to b unashamed of my instincts than my feelings. Instincts are intrinsic & learned (I’m not talking as a biologist rn, okay?). The connotations of the word are more neutral, though it usually implies resistance (I.e humans resisting the pull of ‘base instincts’)
    Feelings, though, are often shamed. It’s social and gendered. Anger especially, but also sadness, anxiety, disgust and fear- these are all helpful emotions that can be expressed in unhealthy ways, but are often shamed to ease social tension. This immediate suppression, repression, or sublimation can help an immediate situation, but often make things more difficult long-term.

  2. Elexi W.S.A. Avatar

    Pain and looking to medicate is an instinct some of us have when things or pressure become unbearable. I constantly have to meditate, not stress over my past that can change, and do some of my own talk to me to build me mentally and physically stronger against what wants to defeat me.

  3. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    The feelings are still there. Ignoring them does not make them go away. Instead they fester inside making us feel less, and can often be triggering. It’s like a bill, we can ignore it, yet eventually there will be consequences, such as the loss of a service, more bills and late fees and ultimately collections and reduced credit score. Ignoring an issue does not make it go away.

    The better option is to face the challenge head on, ask for help when needed and then relax when the problem is solved.

    Thank you for the opportunity to participate and recover. I am grateful

  4. Tony Avatar
    Tony

    Self-reliance, independence, keeping a brave face, never showing pain, gritting your teeth; All of these self-empowering words can pile up on you. Sometimes your not as rational as you would hope. One day you may have to let go of your independence, or your strong face and bare the raw you. At these moments when you let go for a moment and let someone in, it can be powerful. One thing I have to practice is remembering the action. The reason you took the action doesn’t always have to be perfect. But taking the action could be the best thing for you.

  5. Br. Buddha Avatar
    Br. Buddha

    Good morning everyone + happy Monday. Here is today’s thought. In sobriety + having a new relationship with our Higher Power, we have the answer to loneliness + fear, which is calm faith in the goodness + purpose in the universe. Blessings. BB

  6. Br. Buddha Avatar
    Br. Buddha

    Good morning everyone + happy Monday. Here is today’s thought. In sobriety + having a new relationship with our Higher Power, we have the answer to loneliness + fear, which is calm faith in the goodness + purpose in the universe. Blessings. BB

  7. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    I still feel shame every time I get angry at someone because it is either not something they did wrong, or simply that my anger only hurts me and I know this. So I end up feel stupid and ashamed. I’m hard on myself when I make mistakes. My goal is to try to short circuit these feelings sooner, so I don’t have to feel the shame and self-forgiveness that must follow. So now I deal with it by defusing these feelings after I feel them. I make a joke or kind of tease myself about it. Or just say, “that was silly” and just try to forget about it.

  8. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    Without the first three Steps, this Step is hard. I remember the 12-Step Waltz – Steps 1, 2, 3, Steps 1, 2, 3. For me, these first three steps continue to assure me that I am loved, loving and lovable. I get to practices these three steps over and over again, every day. Without such assurance that my Higher Power created me the way I am for a reason, I feel guilty and ashamed. Without my best bud, Higher Power, I can get bogged down by the things about myself I do not like; I have to remember that my Higher Power loves me and that everything about me is a work in progress. Namaste.

  9. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    I’ve feel shame regarding my sexual desires and when I get angry at others. I feel shame when I put someone down in my head. I feel shame if I say anything bad about someone. I feel shame when I make mistakes.

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