How to be Spiritually Attuned and Sift Thru the ‘Ugliness’ to See Beauty Instead – Step 4

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“A thing of beauty is a joy forever:

Its loveliness increases; it will never

Pass into nothingness; but still will keep

“A bower quiet for us, and a sleep” excerpt from Keat’s poem below.

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Do you see yourself as a “diamond in the rough”?  And what does the Confucius quote mean to you?

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What helps people feel okay with their mistakes while still trying to be better?

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You Are Beautiful – Christina Aguilera

 Beauties in the Eye of the Beholder (Darfur)

Scenes of Sri Lanka Piano Meditation (4:19)

English Analysis

The spiritual journey calls for a clear look at our flaws. The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions urges us to identify human defects like pride and envy. These traits can confuse and distort how we see ourselves. By naming them, we gain clarity and agency. Søren Kierkegaard stressed self-awareness as essential to personal transformation. He believed despair comes when we deny our flawed nature.

The second quote from It Works: How and Why reminds us that recovery is ongoing. Time clean does not erase our humanity. Instead, it offers a chance to refine it. Carl Jung viewed this process as shadow integration. By confronting both strengths and weaknesses, we grow. Inventory becomes a tool to deepen this process, helping us accept our whole selves.

Confucius’ wisdom gives poetic weight to this process. A diamond with a flaw still has value and brilliance. A perfect pebble lacks impact or light. This metaphor affirms the beauty of imperfection. Brené Brown echoes this in her work on vulnerability. She argues that embracing flaws leads to connection and authenticity.

Together, these quotes teach that beauty does not require perfection. Spiritual growth depends on truth and humility. Recovery invites us to own both the light and dark within us. Self-honesty and compassion can transform ugliness into grace. The inventory is not judgment—it is liberation.


Spanish Translations

Citas

“Para evitar caer
en la confusión sobre
los nombres que deben
dársele a estos defectos, tomemos
una lista universalmente reconocida
de las principales fallas humanas: los
Siete Pecados Capitales: orgullo,
avaricia, lujuria, ira, glotonería,
envidia y pereza.”
(Doce y Doce, p. 48)

“No importa cuántos
días o cuántos
años llevemos
limpios, seguimos siendo
humanos y sujetos a de-
fectos y fallas. Un inven-
tario nos permite mirar
nuestra naturaleza básica con sus
fallas y fortalezas
… y dónde pudieron
haberse desviado.”
(Funciona: Cómo y Por Qué, p. 28)

“Mejor un dia-
mante con una falla
que una piedra sin ella.”
– Confucio (551 a.C. – 479 a.C.)
Filósofo chino


Análisis en Español

El camino espiritual exige mirar con claridad nuestras fallas. Doce y Doce nos llama a nombrar defectos como el orgullo o la envidia. Estos rasgos pueden nublar nuestra identidad. Al nombrarlos, recuperamos claridad y poder. Kierkegaard decía que la transformación personal requiere autoconciencia. Negar nuestras fallas nos lleva a la desesperación.

La segunda cita de Funciona: Cómo y Por Qué nos recuerda que la recuperación no elimina la humanidad. Más bien, la refina. Jung veía este proceso como integración de la sombra. Al enfrentar fortalezas y defectos, crecemos. El inventario es una herramienta que nos ayuda a aceptar nuestro ser completo.

La sabiduría de Confucio da peso poético al proceso. Un diamante con fallas aún tiene luz y valor. Una piedra perfecta no brilla ni impacta. Esta metáfora afirma la belleza de la imperfección. Brené Brown también lo enseña. Ella dice que aceptar los defectos lleva a la autenticidad y conexión.

Estas citas nos enseñan que la belleza no necesita perfección. El crecimiento espiritual nace de la verdad y la humildad. La recuperación nos invita a abrazar la luz y la sombra. La auto-honestidad y la compasión transforman lo feo en gracia. El inventario no es juicio, es liberación.

¿Qué ayuda a las personas a sentirse bien con sus errores mientras siguen tratando de mejorar?

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Comments

3 responses to “How to be Spiritually Attuned and Sift Thru the ‘Ugliness’ to See Beauty Instead – Step 4”

  1. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Shine on, you crazy diamond. I may have flaws, yet I shine in many ways. I may have imperfections, yet I sparkle and dazzle in my own unique way. And as I make progress, I do not chase imperfection that isn’t attainable or necessary. I am a human being, not perfecting.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  2. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    “Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without.” It is what we are that matters more than our flaws which are superficial.

  3. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    For me, sloth is more mental than physical. Physically being unable to start or complete a task is not about “lazy.” Rather it is about doing the mental work to figure out why I am unable to move. Is it anemia? Depression? Fear? There is always a reason. I know myself well enough to believe that when I find the cause of the inertia, I can seek help to get into motion. Help from my Higher Power and others.

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