We Needn’t Suffer Under the Yoke of Money and the “Quest for Security” Ever Again – Step 4

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“Money has always been a problem for us. We could never find enough to support ourselves and our habits.” (12 & 12, p. 130)

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Which spiritual tools might you use when you feel you don’t have enough money, lately?

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If money and people can’t make us feel safe inside, what really can?

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Mon-ey (Pink Floyd, 1974 Original Video)

The Dalai Lama on God, Money & Inner Peace

Classical Inner Peace Meditation

 

 

English Analysis:

The title of today’s SFZ urges freedom from money’s illusion of safety. Money cannot fix spiritual emptiness. This echoes Erich Fromm’s claim in To Have or To Be? that material possessions distract from authentic selfhood. The quote from 12 & 12 supports this. It describes how addiction manipulates money as a tool, yet it never satisfies. Recovery requires spiritual resources, not financial ones.

The second quote shifts focus. It reminds us that money is not the only false promise. Emotional dependence creates another trap. The phrase “learned helplessness” comes from Martin Seligman. His research showed that people can internalize powerlessness. Yet the quote says it can be unlearned. That signals hope. In Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl argues that people can choose their attitude, even in suffering. So recovery means reclaiming inner strength from both financial and emotional delusions.

Skinner’s quote adds the social layer. Systems shape people early. A society that attacks the vulnerable teaches fear and helplessness. Skinner, a behaviorist, believed that environment molds behavior. This fits with Seligman’s theory. Together, they point to the need for radical care and re-education. In this way, today’s SFZ exposes how society, money, and fear co-produce helplessness. But they also show that we can break these patterns.


Spanish Translation of SFZ Quotes:

No necesitamos seguir sufriendo bajo el yugo del dinero y la “búsqueda de seguridad” nunca más – Paso 4

PORQUE EL DINERO NUNCA LLENARÁ
EL VACÍO INTERIOR –

“El dinero siempre fue un problema para nosotros. Nunca podíamos encontrar suficiente para mantenernos y alimentar nuestros hábitos. Trabajábamos, robábamos, engañábamos, pedíamos y nos vendíamos; nunca había suficiente dinero para llenar el vacío interior. En nuestra recuperación, el dinero a menudo sigue siendo un problema.” (12 & 12, p. 130)

LA ‘INDEFENSIÓN APRENDIDA’
SE PUEDE DESAPRENDER –

Tampoco la búsqueda
de seguridad se expresa
siempre en términos
de dinero. Qué frecuente es ver
a un ser humano atemorizado
decidido a depender
completamente de una persona
más fuerte para que le dé
guía y protección.”
“La desilusión y
la indefensión son
su destino.” (Comedoras Compulsivas Anónimas,
p. 134)

“La sociedad ataca
temprano, cuando el indi-
viduo está indefenso.”

– B. F. Skinner (1904–1990), psicólogo estadounidense


Spanish Translation of the Analysis:

En Paso 4, el hablante insta a liberarse de la ilusión de seguridad que ofrece el dinero. El dinero no puede curar el vacío espiritual. Esto refleja lo que Erich Fromm afirmó en ¿Tener o Ser?: las posesiones materiales desvían del verdadero yo. La cita de 12 & 12 lo refuerza. Muestra cómo la adicción usa el dinero como herramienta, sin jamás saciar.

La segunda cita amplía el enfoque. Señala que el dinero no es el único falso refugio. La dependencia emocional también atrapa. El concepto de “indefensión aprendida” proviene de Martin Seligman. Su investigación reveló que la gente puede interiorizar la impotencia. Pero la cita dice que se puede desaprender. Eso sugiere esperanza. En El hombre en busca de sentido, Viktor Frankl argumenta que incluso en el sufrimiento, se puede elegir una actitud. La recuperación implica reconectar con la fuerza interior.

La cita de Skinner agrega la dimensión social. El entorno moldea al individuo desde temprano. Un sistema que ataca al vulnerable genera miedo e impotencia. Skinner, como conductista, veía el comportamiento como respuesta al ambiente. Esto complementa la teoría de Seligman. Juntos, muestran la necesidad de cuidado radical y reeducación. Las tres citas revelan cómo sociedad, dinero y miedo producen indefensión. Pero también afirman que podemos romper con estos patrones.

Si el dinero y las personas no nos hacen sentir seguros, ¿qué sí puede hacerlo?

 

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Comments

11 responses to “We Needn’t Suffer Under the Yoke of Money and the “Quest for Security” Ever Again – Step 4”

  1. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    If I don’t make money my master God always fills that void… when I trust God completely and turn everything over to him including my finances like right now for example he somehow finds a way for me to pay rent and to put gas in my truck.. right now everything is Sky High…gas and food have never been so expensive. I’m learning to live below my means and I’m okay with that…

  2. Kevin M Avatar
    Kevin M

    There are many concerns as a young person working today that bear down on me that aren’t proper to this program and the work we do in recovery. There isn’t necessarily a working fix in the program for student loan debt, for instance, and that’s not the design of this program. I appreciate that. However, I’ve come to understand how certain basic precepts in the program might map onto management of life elsewhere outside the rooms. This is a bit the function of the saying to the effect of “you get sober and life begins.” I have a lot of critical anxieties about finances–income/wages, taxes, debt, future prospects and growth in my career, etc. Taking it one day at a time and doing what is manageable, what I can where I can, each day, and checking in with people who are experiencing many of the same problems. These are things that on the one hand keep me grounded, practical, and task-oriented, but also situate me alongside others. I understand how it is together we can forge ahead, despite difficulties that are often outside of our control.

  3. Tony O. Avatar
    Tony O.

    This is a hard one. I pray that i will focus on enjoy the journey.

  4. Simon Yebio Avatar
    Simon Yebio

    Money “the thought ” of it has consumed many days of my life. What a waste. Just a bunch of useless thinking, nothing different from any other head thoughts.

  5. Bohdi Baba Avatar

    If I were truly honest with myself I would be doing a 10th step around money every night. I’ve looked into debtors anonymous and even though I’m fortunate not to have had any debt in a few years I’m not as aware of my spending as I should be.

  6. Jon G. Avatar
    Jon G.

    Wow….this one sure hits home. I always worry about not having enough money. My truth is that so long as I am sober I have people in my life who would never allow me to sleep on the streets or miss a meal. Yet I worry constanty. It is so unproductive and useless yet I cannot seem to shake it.

    Recently, I had less then $50 to my name but I stayed the course and almost out of no where I slew of cases came my way and I was able to pay all my debts, satisfy all of my needs and most of my wants. Even stock-piled some money in case things slowed down. Well now that things have slowed down and money is once again thin I am starting to worry more and more rather than having faith that once again my higher power will provide so long as I stay the course and continue working on my recovery. Even though my higher power has never let me down I keeping telling myself that the streak has to end sometime and this may be that time. As I am typing this comment I cannot almost visualize myself making another comment in a week or so mentioning how once again my higher power came through for me and I worried all for not.

    To be continued……..

    1. Jon G. Avatar
      Jon G.

      Change “can” for “cannot”. A simple typo. Funny, I am so self-centered I actually think people may read my comment and notice the typo. If you are reading this comment but did not notice the typo then you are probably just as self-centered as I am and you were thinking about yourself as you were reading my comment.

  7. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    I think about all the people I know that have less money than I do and I see them laughing all the time. It reminds me that the power to be happy is in our grasp regardless of how much money we have, within reason. Starvation and homelessness due to lack of money is a separate issue not so easily dealt with. For those of us who already have our basic needs met, there are many tools to draw upon to dispatch our greed if we are willing to use them.

  8. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    I have a terrible relationship with money! Sometimes I abuse it, and sometimes I allow it to dominate me. I believe there is a happy balance somewhere and sometimes I even find that balance – but not on a consistent basis. From reading DA literature I have learned there is only one source for all security – one source – and that is my Higher Power. Do I have sufficient trust to Let Go and Let God? Only when I choose to surrender.

  9. JB jr. Avatar
    JB jr.

    What I keep forgetting is that money is not security.

  10. brita Avatar
    brita

    Yeah but money can be fun! if you knows its proper place & limits.

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