Why “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Step 5

Gandhi statue with walking stick and forgiveness quote

“The weak
can never for-
give. Forgiveness
is the attribute of
the strong.”

Mahatma Gandhi (1869 – 1948),
preeminent Indian political
and spiritual leader

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How successful have you been with forgiving the person(s) who irks you the most, lately?

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Why do you think forgiving others makes you stronger than holding onto anger?

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Analysis in English

Forgiveness appears as strength rather than weakness. Gandhi affirms this in The Words of Gandhi, linking forgiveness with courage. Step Five in recovery traditions also teaches forgiveness as a healing principle. In The Basic Text, the addict learns that awareness of personal flaws invites compassion. Self-recognition allows humility and empathy toward others.

Furthermore, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions shows forgiveness as a shared process. Guidance from sponsors or advisers supports growth. People discover that forgiveness involves both giving and receiving. This balance echoes Martin Buber’s I and Thou, where authentic relationships require openness and mutual respect. Forgiveness bridges broken connections and sustains human dignity.

Additionally, Friedrich Nietzsche in Thus Spoke Zarathustra suggests strength emerges when one transforms resentment. Forgiveness becomes not resignation but affirmation of life. Resentment chains the self, while forgiveness frees it. This insight strengthens Gandhi’s claim that only the strong can forgive.

Therefore, forgiveness demands honesty, courage, and humility. It transforms weakness into resilience and despair into hope. Recovery texts and world thinkers both insist that forgiveness nurtures inner freedom. Step Five reveals a paradox: admitting our wrongs empowers us to forgive others. Ultimately, forgiveness strengthens the soul while resentment weakens it.

Question: Why do you think forgiving others makes you stronger than holding onto anger?


Traducción al Español

1. Citas

“Al darnos cuenta de nuestra necesidad de ser perdonados, tendemos a ser más indulgentes. Al menos sabemos que ya no estamos haciendo miserable intencionalmente la vida de las personas.” (El Texto Básico, pp. 39-40)

“A menudo fue mientras trabajábamos en este Paso con nuestros padrinos o asesores espirituales que nos sentimos verdaderamente capaces de perdonar a otros, sin importar cuán profundamente sentimos que nos habían ofendido.” “…sabíamos interiormente que seríamos capaces de recibir perdón y darlo también.” (12 Pasos y 12 Tradiciones, pp. 57-58)

“Los débiles nunca pueden perdonar. El perdón es el atributo de los fuertes.”
— Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948), líder político y espiritual indio


2. Análisis

El perdón aparece como fortaleza y no como debilidad. Gandhi lo afirma en Las Palabras de Gandhi, vinculando el perdón con el valor. El Quinto Paso en las tradiciones de recuperación también enseña el perdón como principio sanador. En El Texto Básico, el adicto aprende que la conciencia de los defectos propios invita a la compasión. El autorreconocimiento permite humildad y empatía hacia otros.

Además, Doce Pasos y Doce Tradiciones muestra el perdón como un proceso compartido. La guía de padrinos o consejeros apoya el crecimiento. Las personas descubren que el perdón implica tanto dar como recibir. Este equilibrio recuerda a Yo y Tú de Martin Buber, donde las relaciones auténticas requieren apertura y respeto mutuo. El perdón une las conexiones rotas y sostiene la dignidad humana.

Asimismo, Friedrich Nietzsche en Así Habló Zaratustra sugiere que la fuerza surge al transformar el resentimiento. El perdón se vuelve afirmación de la vida, no resignación. El resentimiento encadena al yo, mientras que el perdón lo libera. Esta idea refuerza la afirmación de Gandhi de que solo los fuertes pueden perdonar.

Por lo tanto, el perdón exige honestidad, valor y humildad. Transforma la debilidad en resiliencia y la desesperación en esperanza. Los textos de recuperación y los grandes pensadores insisten en que el perdón nutre la libertad interior. El Quinto Paso revela una paradoja: admitir nuestras faltas nos capacita para perdonar a otros.


3. Pregunta

¿Por qué crees que perdonar a otros te hace más fuerte que aferrarte al enojo?

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Comments

4 responses to “Why “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Step 5”

  1. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Forgiveness sets the prisoner free, with the understanding that the prisoner is me.

    Lets say I am really mad at you. But I do not tell you, maybe we live far away, or don’t see each other very often. Who is that anger affecting? Who is carrying the burden of all that anger?

    I am. All that bad energy is squarely on my shoulders. All that toxic nasty energy is my burden to bare.

    Forgiveness is the power to unlock the toxic, set it down and set myself free.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  2. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    Forgiveness is huge. It’s probably the hardest one yet it is the biggest attribute. Harboring resentments and holding on to grudges will keep me from taking part in a new way of life. I must forgive others in order for me to be forgiven. Jesus said forgive them 70 times 7!

  3. Bohdi Baba Avatar

    There is one family member where my resentments still run high. I question how does one forgive and yet still not subject oneself to further harm. Detachment with love feels to be the only answer I have for now.

  4. Simon Yebio Avatar
    Simon Yebio

    The only situation that I have not fully forgiven is the coworker. It’s been on my mind recently and I have made it a priority to cultavate a better relationship without ignoring the lessons I’ve learned from my experience with them. It will be me taking the first steps, but it will also be me growing with a larger capacity to love.
    All said it might be initially uncomfortable

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