Some Solutions to Restoring the Relations We Hold Most Dear – Step 6

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“The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being.” (12 & 12, p. 53) on relations

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What have you done to restore the relations you hold most dear, lately?

How can rebuilding trust with others make our lives stronger and happier?

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“Why Can’t We Be Friends” – Cute Animal video (4:48)

What Friendship is (5:30)

Practicing Self-Intimacy a Humanistic Guided Meditation (6:54)

English Analysis

The readings highlight the struggle and hope within human relationships. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions describes how broken ties cause deep suffering. It notes our inability to form real partnerships. This echoes Martin Buber’s I and Thou, where authentic connection requires honesty, humility, and reciprocity. Without these, relationships fracture and isolation grows.

Next, The Basic Text reminds us of healing through patience and consistency. The message reflects Viktor Frankl’s insights in Man’s Search for Meaning. Frankl believed that people find meaning when they serve others with responsibility. Clean time and reliability embody that commitment. Trust returns when actions show change, not just words.

Finally, Margaret Wheatley’s Leadership and the New Science emphasizes interconnectedness. She argues that systems flourish when relationships are honored. Her vision parallels Buber’s view of dialogue as sacred. Healing is not only personal but also societal. We cannot isolate recovery from community. Each bond restored strengthens the larger whole.

Therefore, today’s Zonr post converge on one truth. Partnership requires vulnerability, patience, and responsibility. Recovery calls us to see others not as tools but as equals. Reconnection transforms pain into wholeness. It teaches that we matter because we belong together.

Spanish Translation

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Formar una verdadera sociedad
“Pero es de nuestras relaciones torcidas con la familia, los amigos y la sociedad en general que muchos de nosotros hemos sufrido más.” “El hecho principal que no logramos reconocer es nuestra total incapacidad de formar una verdadera sociedad con otro ser humano.” (12 Pasos y 12 Tradiciones, p. 53)

Reconectar con aquellos a quienes herimos
“Debemos recordar el dolor que ellos han conocido. Con el tiempo, muchos milagros ocurrirán.” “Eventualmente se vuelve más fácil para ellos aceptar el cambio en nosotros. El tiempo limpio habla por sí mismo. La paciencia es una parte importante de nuestra recuperación.” (El Texto Básico, p. 41)

Buscar conexión
“Cuando buscamos conexión, restauramos el mundo a la integridad. Nuestras vidas aparentemente separadas se vuelven significativas al descubrir lo verdaderamente necesarios que somos unos para otros.” — Margaret Wheatley, escritora de sistemas, EE. UU.

Análisis en Español

Las lecturas resaltan la lucha y la esperanza dentro de las relaciones humanas. Doce Pasos y Doce Tradiciones describe cómo los lazos rotos causan sufrimiento profundo. Señala nuestra incapacidad de formar sociedades verdaderas. Esto refleja Yo y Tú de Martin Buber, donde la conexión auténtica exige honestidad, humildad y reciprocidad. Sin estos elementos, las relaciones se quiebran y el aislamiento crece.

Luego, El Texto Básico recuerda la sanación a través de la paciencia y la constancia. El mensaje refleja las ideas de Viktor Frankl en El hombre en busca de sentido. Frankl creía que las personas encuentran sentido al servir a otros con responsabilidad. El tiempo limpio y la confiabilidad encarnan ese compromiso. La confianza regresa cuando los hechos muestran el cambio, no solo las palabras.

Finalmente, Liderazgo y la nueva ciencia de Margaret Wheatley enfatiza la interconexión. Ella argumenta que los sistemas prosperan cuando se honran las relaciones. Su visión se asemeja a la de Buber, quien veía el diálogo como sagrado. La sanación no es solo personal sino también social. No podemos aislar la recuperación de la comunidad. Cada vínculo restaurado fortalece el todo mayor.

Por lo tanto, estos escritos convergen en una verdad. La sociedad requiere vulnerabilidad, paciencia y responsabilidad. Y la recuperación nos llama a ver a los demás no como herramientas sino como iguales. La reconexión transforma el dolor en plenitud. Enseña que importamos porque pertenecemos juntos.

Pregunta: ¿Cómo puede la reconstrucción de la confianza con otros hacer nuestras vidas más fuertes y felices?

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5 responses to “Some Solutions to Restoring the Relations We Hold Most Dear – Step 6”

September 13, 2025

Ari L

Not having someone to trust is like living on a deserted island. I think that building trust with someone is like a way off of that island. But also the island becomes a place of enrichment instead of solitude. I’m maybe butchering the metaphor here, but the main point is that life is hard to go through without people you trust. It’s an essential function of being a human being and we are lesser without it, in my opinion. I hope everyone reading this finds someone to trust <3

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September 12, 2025

E-Dawg

It all starts with loving myself first. Once the self-preservation has started everything can be restored little by little. Eventually face, humility, and acceptance replace pride and rebellion. Perhaps for the first time, we see a vision of our new life, and be trustworthy again.

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September 12, 2025

Sabrina J

As I rebuild trust with myself, it does branch out to others. It is expanding to my mom and brother. There has been a huge rift there since some other non-addiction changes in life, which complicated our relationship. Yet, as life moves forward, we are working on rebuilding our relationships and trust. There are also friendships that are recovering too though not near as damaged as the relationships with my family.

Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

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September 12, 2025

Elexi W.S.A.

I like to be a pretty trustworthy individual, and ran into some people who don’t seem to be the same, so I’ve grown more safely distant to protect me from those who I can’t trust my things around. It would be such a beautiful world though if we could always trust one another, and didn’t exploit one another. I hope for society and individuals to one day be more trustworthy. My organization has really suffered since different thefts though, and people like that trying to forcibly be my friend still in the past. It’s a good thing that businesses have more accountability though.

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September 12, 2020

Rose

The coronavirus pandemic has put a divide between my school friends and I because my main source of talking to them and hanging out with them was school. No longer going to school has shifted the way we have to talk and hang out, and at first, I was not good at this shift. I would forget to talk to them and when they wanted to watch movies, I had already made prior commitments with online friends. I realized that they are my friends and to maintain our friendship that I loved, I needed to try and manage my time better. In order to do that, I created a club with them that has weekly meetings and I have been getting games that all of us can play and have fun with. I am not perfect and sometimes it will get hard for me to manage my time with them again, but as long as I try, I have done my best.

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