Perhaps the Most Poignant Uses for the Pain We Hold Deep Inside – Step 7

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“But if I can go through what I went through, if I can still live and go through that pain for life on earth to change for the best, let it be.” – Immacullee Ilibagiza ( 1972 – ) Rwandan-Tutsi survivor & author on the price of pain

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Please name a character trait which you use to help deal with a “great pain” in your life, lately.

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How has pain helped you grow in your own life?

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Pain – Three Day’s Grace (3:27)

Ms. Ilibagiza on Horror & Faith to CNN (3:06)
S. African Transvaal Naturescape Meditation (13:00)

English Analysis – Step 7: The Uses of Pain

Pain can shape a humble heart. The quotes today show a path through pain that opens healing. The first quote states, “We smile at our delusions of perfection and keep on walking” (It Works, How & Why, p. 48). This line suggests that shared pain unites people. Carl Jung argued that “only the wounded physician heals” (Jung, 1951). He believed that people grow when they face their internal wounds with honesty. That same truth appears in recovery.

Pain removes false pride. It teaches patience and empathy. Viktor Frankl wrote in Man’s Search for Meaning that suffering can hold meaning when we face it with courage (Frankl, 1946). Pain alone does not heal, but humble acceptance does. The second quote says, “It brought a measure of humility, which we soon discovered to be a healer of pain” (12 & 12, p. 75). Humility opens our hearts to guidance from a Higher Power.

Wellbriety teaches similar values. Don Coyhis of the White Bison Movement says, “We must feel to heal” (Coyhis, 2000). Many people hide pain with denial or anger. That behavior only builds walls. When we face pain together, we move from fear to trust. We stop blaming. We begin to grow. Pain does not define us. Instead, pain shapes wisdom. Survivor Immaculée Ilibagiza says, “If I can go through what I went through… let it be.” Her words show fierce hope.

We can transform pain into service. We can use it to help others heal.


Citas del Día – Traducción al Español

EL DOLOR HUMILDE NOS UNE
“Cuando vemos a alguien actuando con un defecto que nosotros mismos hemos tenido, sentimos compasión en lugar de juicio porque sabemos exactamente cuánta dolor causa tal comportamiento. Sonreímos ante nuestras ilusiones de perfección y seguimos caminando.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 48)

“UN SANADOR DEL DOLOR”
“En cada caso, el dolor había sido el precio de entrada a una nueva vida. Pero este precio de entrada había comprado más de lo que esperábamos. Trajo una medida de humildad, que pronto descubrimos que era un sanador del dolor.” (12 & 12, p. 75)

“Pero si yo puedo pasar por lo que pasé, si aún puedo vivir y atravesar ese dolor para que la vida en la tierra cambie para mejor, que así sea.”
– Immaculée Ilibagiza (1972– ) Sobreviviente Tutsi de Ruanda y autora


Análisis en Español

El dolor puede formar un corazón humilde. Las citas muestran un camino de dolor hacia sanación. La primera cita enseña que el dolor compartido une a la gente. Carl Jung dijo que solo una persona herida puede sanar a otra (Jung, 1951). Él creía que la gente crece cuando enfrenta sus heridas con verdad.

El dolor destruye el falso orgullo. Enseña empatía y paciencia. Viktor Frankl escribió que el sufrimiento puede tener sentido si lo enfrentamos con valor (Frankl, 1946). El dolor no sana solo, pero la humildad sí. La segunda cita dice que la humildad trae sanación. Y la humildad abre el corazón a un Poder Superior.

La Wellbriety enseña lo mismo. Don Coyhis dice que debemos sentir para sanar (Coyhis, 2000). Muchas personas esconden el dolor con enojo o negación. Ese hábito crea muros. Cuando enfrentamos el dolor juntos, crecemos. El dolor puede darnos sabiduría. Las palabras de Immaculée Ilibagiza muestran esperanza fuerte.

Podemos usar nuestro dolor para ayudar a otros. Eso da un propósito a la vida.

¿Cómo te ha ayudado el dolor a crecer en tu vida?

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4 responses to “Perhaps the Most Poignant Uses for the Pain We Hold Deep Inside – Step 7”

  1. Mink Avatar
    Mink

    Pain is so important for improving as a person. I have definitely experienced a lot of pain throughout my life and while I do believe that a lot of it is had a negative or even traumatic effect on me, it still shaped me into who I am.earning to grow from pain instrumental to my recovery.

  2. Neyun Uzdlabayoh Avatar
    Neyun Uzdlabayoh

    Please name a character trait which you use to help deal with a “great pain” in your life, lately.

    My ever positive outlook, the glass is half full attitude I swear I was born with lol . . and my faith and inner knowing/ intuition im on the right path, even through pain, loneliness or grief and suffering, gives me peace . If I surrender to flow, and endure and work towards positive solutions and soothing activities and thoughts, I end up knowing the sun will shine again ~ and be even that much more beautiful ~

  3. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    For me I want to say acceptance but that’s probably only 50% of the character trait …I think resilience would be 100%… I do accept the fact that the situation already happened and I can’t change that… I accept that it was 100% of fault of Southern California edison. But God giving me the resilience to walk through this pain is 100% of the character trait… Being grateful to God that I was able to escape the fire that Dreadful morning with no warning is another character trait so I would say resilience and gratefulness…

  4. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Pain is a great teacher. OUCH! I don’t want to do that again. Can I learn from this moment and not repeat it? The experiences from my relapse are still raw and something that do not need to be repeated, nor experienced. It was very traumatic and disappointing. Worst perhaps of all was that living it, was like watching a car crash in slow motion. I knew, every step of the way, what was going to happen next. What a catastrophe.

    The lessons of that pain will live with me and be a powerful reminder of what happens when I am not living honestly, and not working a program. For that I am grateful to have survived this, and each day recognize a little bit more that we can recover, we can heal and we can avoid the paid.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

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