How We Make Amends for Our Most Egregious Transgressions without Shame or Reservation – Step 9

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A “TRUE SPIRIT OF HUMILITY & LOVE” MENDS THE PANGS OF SHAME –  “… we ask ourselves if we are doing this because we are truly sorry and have a genuine desire to make reparations … . If we answer ‘yes’ to this question, we can be assured that we are approaching our amends in the true spirit of humility and love.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 62)

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What happened when have you felt some shame and admit a terrible mistake to others, lately?

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How can admitting you were wrong help you feel better today?

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Shame – Evelyn Champagne King c. 1978 (3:36) 

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Analysis: Step 9 – Making Amends

Today’s Zonr post highlights a necessary path toward amends. Lingering resentments cause significant internal harm. Rehearsing past injuries destroys our current peace. The text confirms that shame never liberated a single spirit (How Al Anon Works, p. 87). We must instead seek a true spirit of humility and love. This approach requires we check our motivation for making amends. We must possess a genuine desire for reparations (It Works, How & Why, p. 62).

Furthermore, this vital step requires admitting our errors. Philosopher Alexander Pope noted the value in owning past mistakes (Pope, n.d.). Pope believed acknowledging mistakes proves new wisdom. Wellbriety teachings emphasize self-forgiveness as true healing (Cajete, 2005). This spiritual work avoids the trap of false pride. False pride often stops us from making necessary changes. Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung spoke of integrating the self (Jung, 1966). Jung‘s work emphasizes that understanding our shadow is necessary. We achieve liberation by connecting with our Higher Power. This connection brings peace and right action.



Traducción al Español (Spanish Translation)

Citas, Títulos y Análisis

Cómo Reparamos Nuestras Transgresiones Más Flagrantes Sin Vergüenza Ni Reserva – Paso 9

AL REABRIR VIEJAS HERIDAS –

“Los resentimientos persistentes son como ácido que nos corroe. Ensayar y re-ensayar viejas heridas nos roba todo lo que es precioso. La vergüenza nunca liberó un solo espíritu.” (Cómo Trabaja Al-Anon, p. 87)

UN “VERDADERO ESPÍRITU DE HUMILDAD Y AMOR” LAS REPARA –

“… nos preguntamos si estamos haciendo esto porque estamos verdaderamente arrepentidos y tenemos un deseo genuino de hacer reparaciones… . Si respondemos “sí” a esta pregunta, podemos estar seguros de que estamos abordando nuestras reparaciones con el verdadero espíritu de humildad y amor.” (Funciona, Cómo y Por Qué, p. 62)

“Un hombre nunca debería avergonzarse de reconocer que se ha equivocado, lo que no es sino decir que es más sabio hoy de lo que fue ayer.” – Alexander Pope (1688 – 1744), poeta inglés traductor del poeta épico griego – Homero


Análisis en Español

El post de Zonr subraya un camino necesario hacia las reparaciones. Los resentimientos persistentes causan un daño interno significativo. Ensayar viejas heridas destruye nuestra paz actual. El texto confirma que la vergüenza nunca liberó un solo espíritu (Cómo Trabaja Al-Anon, p. 87). Debemos buscar, en cambio, un verdadero espíritu de humildad y amor. Este enfoque requiere que verifiquemos nuestra motivación para hacer reparaciones. Debemos poseer un deseo genuino de hacer las enmiendas (Funciona, Cómo y Por Qué, p. 62).

Además, este paso vital requiere admitir nuestros errores. El filósofo Alexander Pope señaló el valor de reconocer errores pasados (Pope, s.f.). Pope creía que admitir errores demuestra nueva sabiduría. Las enseñanzas de Wellbriety enfatizan el autoperdón como la verdadera sanación (Cajete, 2005). Este trabajo espiritual evita la trampa del falso orgullo. El falso orgullo a menudo nos impide hacer los cambios necesarios. El psiquiatra suizo Carl Jung habló de integrar el yo (Jung, 1966). Jung‘s work subraya que comprender nuestra sombra es necesario. Logramos la liberación al conectar con nuestro Poder Superior. Esta conexión trae paz y acción correcta.


Pregunta Conclusiva

¿Cómo puede ayudarte a sentirte mejor hoy el admitir que te equivocaste?

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Comments

9 responses to “How We Make Amends for Our Most Egregious Transgressions without Shame or Reservation – Step 9”

  1. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    When I accept that it was my fault and i own up to it it frees me up of anxiety and other things that can be unhealthy to my new journey. It Fosters humility…

  2. Lotus Avatar

    I don’t feel wrong a lot, but maybe I can think something that’s not necessarily true at times, and think I have to go before someone, and apologize, or reiterate something differently than I said before to keep peace between me, and others. This is humbling for me to admit something I thought or said was wrong to someone. Peace, and peace of mind are of preference for me(moi) instead of being confrontational, that really gets none of us anywhere in the end. A humble spirit makes me feel more just, and have the ability to change something I think will be beneficial for me in the long run. During test some of us learn, plus realize we may not always be right, but we work towards solving something, and finding a solution or solutions that check out. That’s what I like about learning is that we become solution oriented.

  3. Neyun Uzdlah Bayoh Avatar
    Neyun Uzdlah Bayoh

    How can admitting you were wrong help you feel better today?

    It’s important to understand when you’ve crossed boundaries whether intentional is not, and be accountable and sincere . If I was wrong even my accident, I want to be able to see it, admit it, and learn from my mistake . Only up from here!

  4. Mink Avatar
    Mink

    I have a few things recently that I should admit I was wrong about and make amends. It’s scary, because it puts me in a vulnerable position but if I do it I know I will be better. Actually I’m very grateful for this zonr today, it gives me the opportunity to think about how I should go about that.

    1. Lotus (Elexi W.S.A.) Avatar

      Don’t the zonrs make us realize more how to solve different obstacles, or go about something.

  5. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    How can admitting you were wrong help you feel better today?

    How heavy is a burden, two, three, a decades worth, a lifetime? Imagine a sack of burden on my back, trying to carry the load up and up and up the hill of life. Now, imagine admitting those burdens are to much to carry, setting them down, admitting to each one how I was wrong, acknowledging my part in the wrong and seeking forgiveness. How much lighter is my burden, my life by letting go of that which does not serve me for any purpose. Just as Sisyphus for eternity is pushing his rock up the hill that never ends, so too are my burdens if I do not seek to atone for past wrongs. I am the one who carries them, so to, by my actions, am the one who can put them down.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  6. Slim Jim Avatar
    Slim Jim

    Oh … I had to apologize for loosing my temper. I didn’t like doing it but I did.

  7. Peter Bedard Avatar
    Peter Bedard

    Those resentments only support our beliefs that tell us we can’t heal…they provide evidence as to our pain/situation. Letting them go makes room for new opportunity. It’s like Spring Cleaning of the heart!

  8. easy does it Avatar
    easy does it

    learning from my mistakes.. and growing from them and trying as much as possible to pause when aggitated and not repeating history.. make sense?

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