The Trick to ‘Fixing Me, Not You’ – Step 10

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A BIT COUNTER-INTUITIVE –

“It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us. If someone hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also.” (12 & 12, p. 90)

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Is there a small truth about yourself that you are avoiding today?

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Analysis: The Mirror of the Soul

The Zonr post unveils a mirror for the soul. We must peer inward during storms of conflict. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions defines a core spiritual axiom. Disturbance usually signals a deep internal misalignment. External events merely trigger our existing hidden wounds. We take full responsibility for our own reactions. This courageous shift requires us to discard false pride. Our ego often resists this necessary, humbling truth.

The Basic Text offers a brilliant practical solution. Constant self-monitoring prevents future seasons of sorrow. We observe our thoughts and fantasies very closely. This vigilance protects our fragile inner serenity. Wellbriety wisdom supports this vital daily discipline. “Daily inventory helps us walk the Red Road” (White Bison, 2002, p. 112). We seek constant guidance from a Higher Power.

Marcus Aurelius echoed these sentiments long ago. He taught that happiness depends on our thoughts (Aurelius, 2002). An African proverb further confirms this internal strength. We defeat the enemy dwelling within our minds. Consequently, external forces quickly lose their sting. Transformation begins and ends with the self. We find lasting peace through rigorous honesty.

References

Aurelius, M. (2002). Meditations (G. Hays, Trans.). Modern Library.

White Bison, Inc. (2002). The Red Road to Wellbriety. White Bison, Inc.


Traducción al Español

Citas, Títulos y Referencias

EL TRUCO PARA “ARREGLARME A MÍ, NO A TI” – PASO 10

UN POCO CONTRAINTUITIVO –

“Es un axioma espiritual que cada vez que estamos perturbados, sin importar la causa, hay algo mal en nosotros. Si alguien nos lastima y nos sentimos dolidos, también estamos en el error.” (Doce Pasos y Doce Tradiciones, p. 90)

PERO ASÍ ES COMO FUNCIONA –

“Este paso es una gran herramienta para evitar el dolor antes de que lo traigamos sobre nosotros mismos. Monitoreamos nuestros sentimientos, emociones, fantasías y acciones. Al mirarnos constantemente a nosotros mismos, podemos evitar repetir las acciones que nos hacen sentir mal.” (El Texto Básico, p. 43)

“Cuando no hay enemigo interno, los enemigos externos no pueden hacerte daño.”

– Proverbio africano


Análisis

La publicación de Zonr revela un espejo para el alma. Debemos mirar hacia adentro durante las tormentas del conflicto. Doce Pasos y Doce Tradiciones define un axioma espiritual fundamental. La perturbación generalmente señala una profunda desalineación interna. Los eventos externos simplemente activan nuestras heridas ocultas existentes. Asumimos la plena responsabilidad de nuestras propias reacciones. Este cambio valiente requiere que desechemos el falso orgullo. Nuestro ego a menudo se resiste a esta verdad necesaria y humillante.

El Texto Básico ofrece una solución práctica brillante. El autocontrol constante previene futuras temporadas de dolor. Observamos nuestros pensamientos y fantasías muy de cerca. Esta vigilancia protege nuestra frágil serenidad interior. La sabiduría de Wellbriety apoya esta disciplina diaria vital. “El inventario diario nos ayuda a recorrer el Camino Rojo” (White Bison, 2002, p. 112). Buscamos la guía constante de un Poder Superior.

Marco Aurelio se hizo eco de estos sentimientos hace mucho tiempo. Él enseñó que la felicidad depende de nuestros pensamientos (Aurelius, 2002). Un proverbio africano confirma además esta fuerza interna. Derrotamos al enemigo que habita en nuestras mentes. En consecuencia, las fuerzas externas pierden rápidamente su aguijón. La transformación comienza y termina en uno mismo. Encontramos una paz duradera a través de la honestidad rigurosa.


Pregunta Concluyente

Cuando te enojas con alguien, ¿qué intenta decirte tu corazón?

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Comments

10 responses to “The Trick to ‘Fixing Me, Not You’ – Step 10”

  1. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    After making the list in step 8, step 9 is an action step. This is the Endeavor to fix myself through action.
    This is where the rubber meets the road, this is not an easy step but it must be done in order to fix myself.
    This is a healing way to build relationships, and restore my integrity to move forward with a clear conscience…

  2. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Through prayer and meditation. This year I will start to implement the 2 step prayer for better awareness of what my higher power is sharing with me. In the past this insight was ignored for my ego. Doing what I want, doing what I see as right. That path was not fruitful. The good news is that I will not be fixing, rather listening and each step of the way, doing the next right thing.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  3. RaThaGod♾️ Avatar
    RaThaGod♾️

    Today, I’ve endeavored to fix myself today by not allowing history to repeat itself. When people intentionally try to get a rise out of me, I used to react. Now, I document and I allow the documentation to tell the story.

  4. power of now Avatar
    power of now

    FEATURED POST FROM THE ZONR VAULT – “fixing self? hmm well doing a 10th step is a good start
    not taking someone elses inventory doing what i dont want to do .. sometimes can be like going thru fire. I need to trust more the people god places in my path” (Orig. post 1/4/2012)

    1. Slim Jim Avatar
      Slim Jim

      I agree. Letting other people in to help us see ourselves better can be scary but ultimately its very rewarding as well.

  5. Shannon Avatar
    Shannon

    Let go let god

  6. Bodhi Baba Avatar
    Bodhi Baba

    I love this African proverb. If I try, little by little, to fix me, then whatever other’s may think of me I can honestly feel I’m being the best me I can be. Because I would have made peace with faults and am on the road to healing.

  7. Tony omaeboo Avatar
    Tony omaeboo

    I don’t want to always look at myself. What is pefection? 15%growth is goal

  8. Bohdi Baba Avatar
    Bohdi Baba

    I’m meditating more regularly and doing my best not to jump to conclusions but rather hear everyone out fairly and dispassionately, as much as possible.

  9. Jim Brown Avatar
    Jim Brown

    Everything I do is in service to “fix” myself, however I have now learned that the key to fixing myself is not making myself so available to others.

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