When do We Really Cause Harm … People, Places, & Things, Revisited – Step 8

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HARM DOES NOT HAPPEN IN A VACUUM – ” … Step Eight isn’t simply a restatement of our inventory.  We are now looking for the people, places, and institutions we harmed, not just the types of harm we inflicted. [We] didn’t just lie; we lied to someone. [We] didn’t just steal; we stole from various people.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 56 to cause harm)

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Be it, “people, places or things”, in what ways have your own actions caused harm?

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How does understanding the people behind our harm help us live with more honesty and peace?

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English Analysis (245 words)

Step Eight invites direct accountability. It Works: How and Why teaches that harm always involves relationships, not abstractions. We hurt specific people, institutions, or communities. This awareness deepens emotional maturity and spiritual integrity. According to Adorno (1973), betrayal damages “the past itself,” reminding us that dishonesty fractures time as well as trust. Healing, then, restores not just connection but continuity.

Bill W. (1953) expands this in Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, describing harm as “instincts in collision.” That phrase reveals the struggle between fear and love, between self-protection and service. When instincts clash, pain emerges, but so does the chance to grow. The Wellbriety Teachings echo this truth: “We heal in circles, not alone.” Accountability reconnects the circle that false pride once broke.

Moreover, Step Eight transforms guilt into purpose. Each acknowledgment frees emotional energy for amends. Viktor Frankl (1959) in Man’s Search for Meaning noted that purpose arises when suffering finds direction. Step Eight gives direction through humility, compassion, and honesty. Every act of courage in confession rebuilds trust and aligns us with our Higher Power.

True healing demands we see harm as shared experience, not isolated failure. Through clarity, we learn responsibility without shame, compassion without indulgence, and freedom through surrender.


Traducción al español

CUANDO REALMENTE CAUSAMOS DAÑO … PERSONAS, LUGARES Y COSAS, REVISITADO – Paso 8

EL DAÑO NO SUCEDE EN EL VACÍO

“… El Paso Ocho no es simplemente una repetición de nuestro inventario. Ahora buscamos a las personas, lugares e instituciones que dañamos, no solo los tipos de daño que infligimos. No solo mentimos; mentimos a alguien. No solo robamos; robamos a varias personas.”
(It Works, How & Why, p. 56)

¿QUÉ ES UN POCO DE DAÑO DE TODOS MODOS?

“Podríamos preguntarnos qué queremos decir cuando decimos que hemos ‘dañado’ a otras personas. ¿Qué tipos de ‘daño’ se hacen las personas unas a otras? Para definir la palabra ‘daño’ de manera práctica, podríamos llamarlo el resultado de instintos en colisión, que causan daño físico, mental, emocional o espiritual a las personas.”
(12 & 12, p. 80)

“Aquel que ha amado y traiciona el amor hace daño no solo a la imagen del pasado, sino al pasado mismo.”
— Theodor Adorno (1903–1969), filósofo alemán


Análisis

El Paso Ocho invita a la responsabilidad directa. It Works: How and Why enseña que el daño siempre involucra relaciones, no abstracciones. Herimos a personas, instituciones o comunidades específicas. Esta conciencia profundiza la madurez emocional y la integridad espiritual. Según Adorno (1973), la traición daña “al pasado mismo,” recordándonos que la deshonestidad fractura el tiempo y la confianza. Sanar, entonces, restaura no solo la conexión, sino la continuidad.

Bill W. (1953) amplía esto en Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, describiendo el daño como “instintos en colisión.” Esa frase revela la lucha entre el miedo y el amor, entre la autoprotección y el servicio. Cuando los instintos chocan, surge el dolor, pero también la oportunidad de crecer. Las Enseñanzas Wellbriety reflejan esta verdad: “Sanamos en círculos, no solos.” La responsabilidad reconecta el círculo que el falso orgullo rompió.

Además, el Paso Ocho transforma la culpa en propósito. Cada reconocimiento libera energía emocional para la reparación. Viktor Frankl (1959) en El hombre en busca de sentido observó que el propósito surge cuando el sufrimiento encuentra dirección. El Paso Ocho da dirección mediante la humildad, la compasión y la honestidad. Cada acto de valor en la confesión reconstruye la confianza y nos alinea con nuestro Poder Superior.

La verdadera sanación exige ver el daño como experiencia compartida, no como fracaso aislado. A través de la claridad, aprendemos responsabilidad sin vergüenza, compasión sin indulgencia y libertad mediante la entrega.

Pregunta:
¿Cómo nos ayuda comprender a las personas detrás de nuestro daño a vivir con más honestidad y paz?

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Comments

9 responses to “When do We Really Cause Harm … People, Places, & Things, Revisited – Step 8”

  1. Eli🌱🫶🏾🫡🪱 Avatar
    Eli🌱🫶🏾🫡🪱

    Understanding the harm we have caused is, I think, why it is so important to work the steps with a sponsor. I can’t begin to assess all of the consequences of my actions by myself. Everyone is necessarily biased.
    But I do not want to repeat my own earlier positions. I think the point is clear.

  2. Ari L Avatar
    Ari L

    When we cause harm, whether or not we can grow from it depends on empathy, I think. Like there are even moments where being assertive and honest may hurt someone else (like falling out of love) but if we can take time to understand the other person and have empathy then we can further develop and hone our own sense of care and tact to better treat our peers, regardless of situation.

  3. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    The whole purpose of Step 8 is to get all of the harm behind me. This step is not telling me to make amends to them all it’s saying am I willing to make amends to them all? So I don’t want to put the cart before the horse. Thank God that these steps are in this order, it’s sure easier to make the list first than to just jump directly into making amends. Step 8 gives me time to breathe and make sure that I am ready to become willing first….SLOWBRIETY…

  4. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    When in my addiction I harmed the people in my life by not being sincere and acting out of selfishness. I harmed places by not being responsible for bad behavior and using where it wasn’t allowed. And I harmed things by not being respectful and misusing the abundance I had. This broke trust and lead to our and selfish decisions.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  5. Mink Avatar
    Mink

    Great song. Looking at the pain I’ve caused to people is scary but so important. It’s how I can be free from resentment against myself.

  6. Tony Omaeboo Avatar
    Tony Omaeboo

    Ignorance is bliss. Knowing hurts. It takes a better man to choose knowledge over enjoyment. The truth hurts.

  7. JB jr. Avatar
    JB jr.

    This Johnny Cash song feels so authentic to me. He looks one hundred years old but sounds pitch perfect. I really feel his pain. The pain of disappointing those we love.

  8.  Avatar
    Anonymous

    I think that love is a dimension and that the 8th step, all the steps, put us in it.

    1. Brita Avatar
      Brita

      above comment by Brita.

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