When Confrontation Comes, “Remember, You don’t Choose Love; Love Chooses You” – Step 8

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“Remember that you don’t choose love; love chooses you. All you really can do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes to your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing then reach out and give it away.”
– Kent Nerburn (1946 – ) U.S. spiritual author

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In what way has the “spiritual mystery” of love chosen you, lately?

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How can you let honest love guide the way you talk to people today?

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 Find Your Love – Drake (5:58)

Kent Nerburn reading “Benediction”, from Native Echoes (6:42)

 

 Analysis

Learning to speak from the heart requires humility and willingness. Today’s Zonr post highlights this path. It presents love as a transforming force that chooses us. This view aligns with Kent Nerburn’s reminder that love arrives with mystery and abundance. His insight supports Step Eight’s call for honest connection.

Furthermore, It Works: How & Why stresses empathy as spiritual currency. It notes that we strengthen unity through open sharing (Narcotics Anonymous, 1993). The Zonr post echoes this by urging fearless compassion. This approach reduces barriers created by false pride. Bill W. adds clarity in As Bill Sees It. He explains that spiritual experience offers results even when its meaning remains unclear (Wilson, 1967). His admission encourages acceptance rather than analysis paralysis.

Additionally, Wellbriety teachings affirm that healing grows in circles of truth. They emphasize that “the heart shows the path when the mind becomes noisy” (Coyhis, 2010). This teaching deepens the post’s theme. It affirms that love and empathy originate from a Higher Power and move outward through service.

Together, these voices guide us toward sincere speech. They remind us that spiritual growth unfolds through vulnerability, reflection, and connection. They also show that we thrive when we allow love to guide amends and relationships.


Spanish Translations

Citas en Español

APRENDER A HABLAR DESDE EL CORAZÓN
“Más bien, usamos el lenguaje simple de la empatía…” (It Works, How & Why, p. 155)

UNA ADIVINANZA DEL ESPÍRITU
“Puede ser posible encontrar explicaciones…” (As Bill Sees It, p. 323)

“Recuerda que no eliges el amor; el amor te elige a ti…”
– Kent Nerburn


Análisis en Español

Aprender a hablar desde el corazón exige humildad y disposición. La publicación de Zonr resalta este camino. Presenta el amor como una fuerza que nos elige. Esta visión coincide con Nerburn, quien describe el amor como un misterio lleno de abundancia. Su idea apoya el llamado del Paso Ocho a la conexión honesta.

Además, It Works: How & Why afirma que la empatía es una moneda espiritual (Narcotics Anonymous, 1993). La publicación refleja esto al promover la compasión sin miedo. Este enfoque reduce las barreras creadas por el falso orgullo. Bill W., en As Bill Sees It, dice que la experiencia espiritual ofrece resultados incluso sin plena comprensión (Wilson, 1967). Su mensaje invita a aceptar en lugar de estancarse.

Asimismo, las enseñanzas de Wellbriety señalan que la sanación crece en círculos de verdad. Destacan que “el corazón muestra el camino cuando la mente se llena de ruido” (Coyhis, 2010). Esto refuerza el tema central. Afirma que el amor y la empatía provienen de un Poder Superior y se expanden a través del servicio.

Juntas, estas voces nos llevan hacia un habla sincera. Recuerdan que el crecimiento espiritual surge con vulnerabilidad, reflexión y conexión. También muestran que avanzamos cuando dejamos que el amor guíe nuestras relaciones.


Pregunta en Español

¿Cómo puedes dejar que el amor honesto guíe la forma en que hablas con otros hoy?

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Comments

6 responses to “When Confrontation Comes, “Remember, You don’t Choose Love; Love Chooses You” – Step 8”

  1. Mink Avatar
    Mink

    I feel that sometimes I get sympathy and empathy mixed up with compassion. I think that empathy is obviously crucial for compassion but I think that compassion is more active, in terms of compassionate behaviors.

  2. Lotus (Elexi W.S.A.) Avatar

    When I talk I’m going to have some assertiveness always, but still be understanding, and attentive as much as possible when someone needs to express them. Unlike some I like to be careful in what I say to people to not be rude or unprofessional, but respectable. When I get my Non-Profit going like I know I am going to do some more – my professional non-distorted respectability will take me(moi) far. Even during an interview how I communicate is of importance. Some people who don’t respect gender pronouns have ended up becoming racist or saying something racist about 100% of the time. This could mean a lot of trouble in a work environment.

  3. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    I believe that God is love, and so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them…
    So I try to show it by being patient, compassionate, gracious and faithful.

  4. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Love has chosen me by turning my camera lens outward to advocate for others, inward to honor my ancestors, and forward to build tools that help us all tell better stories.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  5. Kelli Avatar
    Kelli

    My spiritual growth has been slow but I see for me taking contrary action has become almost second nature for me and that’s how I also know I’m growing.

  6. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    I think maybe we do choose love. When I think that love is choosing me, maybe I’m just being open to the experience of love – of spiritual growth. Whenever I can choose gratitude, whenever I can choose forgiveness, whenever I can look beyond my own narrow concerns and choose peace and light for this planet – maybe that is when I choose love. Maybe in expressing gratitude for my life I find that love is also choosing me.

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