When Faced with Intolerance, Bigotry & Fear; Words Weigh more than Gold – Step 10

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“Vulgarity is vulgarity. And if you mean to demean a person; that makes him or her less than whole … it means this person is not worth my concern.”

Maya Angelou (1928 – 2014 ), renowned African- American poet (on Intolerance)

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What are Words For – Missing Persons (4:37)
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 Gayatri Mantra by the Agape Choir (2:11)

Analysis: The Weight of Words in Step 10

The post emphasizes the weight of words during Step 10. We must pause before speaking or acting. It Works, How & Why encourages approaching others with love. Kindness then replaces our instinctual reactivity. Maya Angelou warns that demeaning others harms their wholeness. This behavior often stems from false pride. We must check this arrogance to maintain spiritual balance.

Nelson Mandela taught that love comes more naturally than hate (Mandela, 1994). His wisdom mirrors the recovery journey perfectly. Therefore, we seek a Higher Power to soften our hearts. Wellbriety principles further stress the importance of inner peace. “Anger burns the person who holds it” (White Bison, 2002, p. 78). Consequently, we choose respect over vulgarity every single day.

References Mandela, N. (1994). Long walk to freedom. Little, Brown & Co. White Bison. (2002). The Red Road to wellbriety. White Bison, Inc.

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Traducción al Español

Citas, Títulos y Referencias

CUANDO NOS ENFRENTAMOS A LA INTOLERANCIA, EL FANATISMO Y EL MIEDO; LAS PALABRAS PESAN MÁS QUE EL ORO – PASO 10

ACÉRQUESE CON AMOR Y AMABILIDAD –

“Se vuelve natural para nosotros pensar antes de hablar o actuar, teniendo en cuenta que lo que decimos o hacemos va a afectar a nuestros amigos, nuestras familias y nuestros compañeros… Nos acercamos a las personas con amor y amabilidad, llevando… respeto por los sentimientos de los demás.” (Funciona: cómo y por qué, p. 67)

LA VULGARIDAD ES VULGARIDAD –

“La vulgaridad es vulgaridad. Y si pretendes degradar a una persona; es decir, hacerla menos que un todo… significa que esta persona no merece mi preocupación.”

– Maya Angelou (1928 – ), renombrada poeta afroamericana


Análisis

El post enfatiza el peso de las palabras durante el Paso 10. Debemos hacer una pausa antes de hablar o actuar. Funciona: cómo y por qué fomenta acercarse a los demás con amor. La amabilidad reemplaza entonces nuestra reactividad instintiva. Maya Angelou advierte que degradar a otros daña su integridad. Este comportamiento a menudo surge del falso orgullo. Debemos controlar esta arrogancia para mantener el equilibrio espiritual.

Nelson Mandela enseñó que el amor surge más naturalmente que el odio (Mandela, 1994). Su sabiduría refleja perfectamente el camino de la recuperación. Por lo tanto, buscamos un Poder Superior para suavizar nuestros corazones. Los principios de Wellbriety subrayan además la importancia de la paz interior. “La ira quema a la persona que la sostiene” (White Bison, 2002, p. 78). En consecuencia, elegimos el respeto sobre la vulgaridad cada día.


Pregunta Concluyente

Cuando alguien es grosero contigo, ¿cómo logras ser amable?

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Comments

8 responses to “When Faced with Intolerance, Bigotry & Fear; Words Weigh more than Gold – Step 10”

  1. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    If it’s used to provoke a negative reaction then it’s all bad. But if I’m watching a football game and my team makes a touchdown I can be descriptive by saying fuck yeah!
    Life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it

  2. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Hurt people hurt people. When someone is hurting they often choose to pass the hurt to someone else. And so when someone strikes out in hurt toward me, I get to choose what to do with that hurt. Each action and reaction in life is a choice. How to respond to someone who is hurt is a choice. When I am healthy and making good choices for myself, and when I am aware of my actions, which comes from health, I find that not taking things personally is the cornerstone of not reacting poorly or acting our of hurt to start with.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful

  3. RaThaGod♾️ Avatar
    RaThaGod♾️

    So, I don’t avoid intolerance and vulgarity by using kind words; I face intolerance and vulgarity with the truth. And while it is on a case-by-case basis, the truth isn’t always kind. The truth can be harsh and uncomfortable. The truth can be unsettling, no matter how nicely you might say it. When you hold up a mirror that reflects the truth of others’ intolerance and vulgarities, most people double down to hide from the parts of themselves that they don’t want to acknowledge. Some people recognize the absurdity in their projections onto you. Some are in complete denial, and they never grow out of it. So read the room, then pick and choose wisely how you are going to use your energy—on what and whom. So there really isn’t a way to avoid vulgarities and intolerance but to face them with truth. After that, they run from you. It’s like a playground fight: once they know you’re not scared, they leave you alone.

  4. Bodhi Baba Avatar
    Bodhi Baba

    There are a few who don’t share my views lately but I tell others that see this unfortunate dynamic and explain that’s why I am so much more grateful for their acceptance and support.

  5. Tony omaeboo Avatar
    Tony omaeboo

    I try to think before I speak. Volgerity is outside of my vocabulary. Speaking with love and kindness is hard. Sometimes I have to step back when I see myself thinking too hard. It is something I need to grow on.

  6. Jim Brown Avatar
    Jim Brown

    I have been mindful that what I say may be a reflection of what’s going on inside, and not a reflection of my attitudes and feelings towards others. So, I just “take it in” and forgo the urge to respond verbally.

  7. power of now Avatar
    power of now

    taking personal inventory is so vital to my peace of mind. I can only control myself

  8. brita Avatar
    brita

    Tolerance is the key word here – if I learn to be tolerant of me then I can be tolerant of others.

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