“Certain distressing or humiliating memories, we tell ourselves, ought not be shared with anyone. These will remain our secret.” “We hope they’ll go to the grave with us. Yet if [our program’s] experience means anything at all, this is not only unwise, but is actually a perilous resolve.” (12 & 12, p. 56 on keeping secrets)
Dirty Little Secret – All American Rejects (3:15)
A Gift from the Secret Scrolls Meditation (2:36)
Free Tibet Meditation (7:46)
THEY’RE JUST NOT WORTH TAKING TO THE GRAVE –
“Certain distress-
ing or humiliating mem-
ories, we tell ourselves,
ought not be shared with
anyone. These will remain our
secret.” “We hope they’ll go to
the grave with us. Yet if [our
program’s] experience means
anything at all, this is not
only unwise, but is actual-
ly a perilous resolve.”
(12 & 12, p. 56)
FINDING THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE TO TRUST –
“As we share our
most personal feel-
ings and our most care-
fully guarded secrets, we
may experience anguish.
However, many of us have
looked up and seen uncondi-
tional love in the eyes of the
person hearing our Fifth
Step.” “… that moment
helped us to feel a part
of the program.” (It
Works, How & Why,
p. 37)
What does Gibran imply you should do when finding someone with whom to share your secrets?
“[T}hinking about negative things is a bummer. That’s probably true (though it’s worth noting that positive secrets, like surprises, likely work differently). But this study found another reason, one more specific to secrecy.: Thinking of secrets means thinking of things you aren’t being open and honest about in your relationships. Which makes people feel less authentic.” (https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/05/shhhhh/526581/)
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