How We can be both Strong and Humble while Holding Our Head Up High – Step 7

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“An attitude of humility is not the same as humiliation, nor is it a denial of our good qualities.  On the contrary, an attitude of humility means that we have a realistic view of ourselves and our place in the world.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 49)

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In what ways have you been humble where you used to be arrogant in the past, lately?

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When was a time you felt strong without acting from false pride, and what helped you stay humble?

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Analysis

Humility helps us align our will with our Higher Power. It frees us from the illusion of control.
C. S. Lewis wrote in Mere Christianity that humility “is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less” (Lewis, 1952). This echoes How Al-Anon Works, reminding us that self-acceptance builds genuine strength.

Tobey Maguire’s words show spiritual openness. His willingness to learn reflects what Ernest Kurtz called the “spiritual discipline of limitation” in Not-God: A History of Alcoholics Anonymous (Kurtz, 1979). Through this lens, humility becomes an honest awareness of our limits.

In Wellbriety teachings, humility invites us to “walk softly on the Earth” (Coyhis, 2006). It calls us to release false pride and accept guidance. When we surrender ego, we discover inner power that flows from connection, not control.

Therefore, strength and humility coexist. Strength expresses truth; humility listens to it. Both grow when we trust our Higher Power rather than our false pride.


Versión en Español

Publicación de Zonr – “Cómo Podemos Ser Fuertes y Humildes al Mantener la Cabeza en Alto – Paso 7”


DESENREDARLO
“Muchas personas confunden la humildad con la humillación. Pero la humillación es una forma de abuso y no tiene lugar en nuestro crecimiento espiritual. Cuando hablamos de humildad, hablamos de autoaceptación.” (Cómo Funciona Al-Anon, p. 56)

UNA ACTITUD DE HUMILDAD
“Una actitud de humildad no es lo mismo que la humillación, ni es una negación de nuestras buenas cualidades. Por el contrario, una actitud de humildad significa que tenemos una visión realista de nosotros mismos y de nuestro lugar en el mundo.” (Funciona, Cómo y Por Qué, p. 49)

APRENDIENDO A TRAVÉS DE LA HUMILDAD
“Solo trato de mantener una actitud de que no sé lo que estoy haciendo. No hasta el punto de golpearme a mí mismo, pero entro pensando que tengo mucho que aprender. Y espero seguir teniendo esa actitud dentro de 30 años.” — Tobey Maguire (1975– ), actor estadounidense, también conocido como Spiderman


Análisis

La humildad nos ayuda a alinear nuestra voluntad con nuestro Poder Superior. Nos libera de la ilusión del control.
C. S. Lewis escribió en Cristianismo y Nada Más que la humildad “no es pensar menos de ti, sino pensar menos en ti mismo” (Lewis, 1952). Esto refleja Cómo Funciona Al-Anon, recordándonos que la autoaceptación genera verdadera fortaleza.

Las palabras de Tobey Maguire muestran apertura espiritual. Su disposición a aprender refleja lo que Ernest Kurtz llamó la “disciplina espiritual de la limitación” en No-Dios: Una Historia de Alcohólicos Anónimos (Kurtz, 1979). Desde esta perspectiva, la humildad es una conciencia honesta de nuestros límites.

En las enseñanzas de Wellbriety, la humildad nos invita a “caminar suavemente sobre la Tierra” (Coyhis, 2006). Nos llama a soltar el falso orgullo y aceptar guía. Cuando rendimos el ego, descubrimos un poder interior que fluye desde la conexión, no desde el control.

Por tanto, la fortaleza y la humildad coexisten. La fortaleza expresa la verdad; la humildad la escucha. Ambas crecen cuando confiamos en nuestro Poder Superior más que en el falso orgullo.

Pregunta:
¿Recuerdas un momento en que te sentiste fuerte sin actuar desde el falso orgullo, y qué te ayudó a mantenerte humilde?

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Comments

8 responses to “How We can be both Strong and Humble while Holding Our Head Up High – Step 7”

  1. Eli🌱🫶🏾🫡🪱 Avatar
    Eli🌱🫶🏾🫡🪱

    I’ve been learning how unhelpful & useless arguing often is. It doesn’t convince whoever I’m talking to, and it rarely makes friends. Unless someone is explicitly talking to debate argument is unwanted. Sometimes it’s warranted, but that’s truly rare. Choosing to refrain from arguing even when I’m sure I’m empirically or philosophically right has been a very helpful expression of humility. It brings both pride and peace.

  2. Mink Avatar
    Mink

    Humility is so important. I sometimes let my ego take over, and I end up behaving in a way I regret. It’s also important not to humiliate myself or downplay my abilities. They say humility is having an accurate view of yourself.

  3. Elexi W.S.A. Avatar

    I think when I awake to another new beamin’ day of light, and take that first breath of I hope fresh breath, automatically a humble spirit is with me(moi). Arrogance is somethin’ I never had before, so it’s not somethin’ I ever could relate to, unless someone has tried to falsify my name. Bein’ peace/zen is a cultural awakenin’ to me where no matter the attitudes that some of us do make mistakes, if not all, that findin’ positivity through people’s judgements don’t matter. I can still keep a humble attitude while of course always standin’ my ground.

  4. Ari L Avatar
    Ari L

    I really felt like somehow I was very smart, or smarter than other people around me a while back and have been getting very humbled with school, as I’ve been having trouble learning. Coming back to the basis of learning is to struggle and overcome the state of not knowing.

  5. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    If living in a congregate setting doesn’t keep one humble I don’t know what will. There are many things i can do throughout the day to practice humility, simple things, opening the door for someone, doing something good for someone and not expecting anything in return…

    1. Elexi W.S.A. Avatar

      Knowin’ why we’re here too makes bein’ in a communal settin’ with people a lot easier as well I find, and gives me strength to stay away from lifestyles that aren’t where I any longer want to be.

  6. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Mindfulness is one of those tools that, when I practice it, the life changing benefits gained are transcendent. Slowing down the scatter around me reduces the anxiety replaces arrogance with calm. That feeling, for me connects confidence with humility. Like peace, humility is ever present. It is not something that comes and goes, rather when do I be it, not wish it.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  7. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    Humility vs humiliation – sometimes there is a blurry line especially when I accept that I have character defects. The acceptance I can practice around humility also allows me to own the many gifts and talents I have been given. I am learning to look for my own beauty, my own artistry, my own capacity to live my life as an artist creating a masterpiece (thank you, Don Miguel Ruiz). My life is my masterpiece and it is painted with both dark colors and light.

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