“Humility, Elation, and Relief” are some of the Sweet “Fruits” of Recovery We can Now Enjoy – Step 5

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“The true way to

soften one’s troubles

is to solace those of others.”

– Madame de Maintenon

(1635 – 1719) 2nd wife of

French King Louis XIV

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Why do people feel lighter when they share their struggles with others?

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Analysis

Today’s SFZ describes the emotional rewards of recovery through humility, honesty, and shared experience. In Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, the writers stress that deep pain can transform into healing tranquility. This idea connects with Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, where he shows how suffering gains purpose when reshaped by meaning. When we place humility beside serenity, a doorway to transformation appears. Recovery becomes not just survival but growth.

Furthermore, the reference to “humility, elation, and relief” recalls Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics. Aristotle argues that virtuous balance leads to happiness. Here, recovery offers balance between honest self-reflection and hope. This emotional harmony brings joy not through excess, but through moderation. Thus, the “fruits” of recovery resemble Aristotle’s concept of flourishing, or eudaimonia, grounded in practical wisdom.

Madame de Maintenon’s wisdom adds another dimension. Her words echo the communal aspects of recovery: serving others lessens our personal burden. Similarly, Martin Buber’s I and Thou highlights how healing occurs within authentic relationships. Step Five, when shared honestly with another, creates this “I-Thou” connection. Through truth-telling, individuals find humility, compassion, and belonging.

All in all, this SFZ reminds us that recovery is not a solitary event. It is a dynamic process that transforms pain into strength and self-centeredness into service. The result is a calm dignity that sustains life with purpose.


Spanish Translation

Citas:

“Una TRANQUILIDAD SANADORA” –
“Cuando el dolor disminuye, una tranquilidad sanadora lo reemplaza. Y cuando la humildad y la serenidad se combinan, algo de gran importancia puede ocurrir.” (12 y 12, p. 61)

SEGUIDO POR “HUMILDAD, JÚBILO Y ALIVIO” –
“Al completar el quinto paso, podemos sentir muchas emociones, entre ellas humildad, júbilo y alivio. Los frutos… pueden ser evidentes de inmediato o gradualmente, pero aparecerán.” (OA 12 y 12, p. 51)

“La verdadera manera de suavizar los problemas de uno es consolar los de otros.” – Madame de Maintenon (1635–1719), segunda esposa del rey francés Luis XIV


Análisis (traducción):

Los textos describen las recompensas emocionales de la recuperación mediante la humildad, la honestidad y la experiencia compartida. En Doce Pasos y Doce Tradiciones, los autores subrayan que el dolor profundo puede transformarse en tranquilidad sanadora. Esta idea conecta con El hombre en busca de sentido de Viktor Frankl, donde él muestra que el sufrimiento obtiene propósito cuando se transforma en significado. Cuando colocamos la humildad junto a la serenidad, aparece una puerta a la transformación. La recuperación se convierte no solo en sobrevivir, sino en crecer.

Además, la referencia a “humildad, júbilo y alivio” recuerda a la Ética a Nicómaco de Aristóteles. Aristóteles argumenta que el equilibrio virtuoso conduce a la felicidad. Aquí, la recuperación ofrece equilibrio entre la autorreflexión honesta y la esperanza. Esta armonía emocional trae alegría no por exceso, sino por moderación. Así, los “frutos” de la recuperación se asemejan al concepto de florecimiento de Aristóteles, o eudaimonía, basada en la sabiduría práctica.

La sabiduría de Madame de Maintenon agrega otra dimensión. Sus palabras reflejan los aspectos comunitarios de la recuperación: servir a otros alivia nuestra carga personal. De manera similar, Yo y Tú de Martin Buber resalta cómo la sanación ocurre en relaciones auténticas. El quinto paso, compartido con honestidad, crea esta conexión “Yo-Tú”. Al decir la verdad, las personas encuentran humildad, compasión y pertenencia.

En conjunto, estas voces nos recuerdan que la recuperación no es un evento solitario. Es un proceso dinámico que transforma el dolor en fortaleza y el egocentrismo en servicio. El resultado es una dignidad serena que da propósito a la vida.


Pregunta (traducción):
¿Por qué las personas se sienten más ligeras cuando comparten sus luchas con otros?

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Comments

8 responses to ““Humility, Elation, and Relief” are some of the Sweet “Fruits” of Recovery We can Now Enjoy – Step 5”

  1. Zen Avatar
    Zen

    People feel lighter when they are able to let things off their chest because they are able to emotionally release whatever thoughts have been plaguing them.
    Along with emotional release, the concept of validation is important. It helps reassure you that what you’re going through is real and important.

  2. Elexi W.S.A. Avatar

    I’ve passed out flyers, and have involved me in getting resource information not only for me, but for other people also. When I do something to assist me, I am also assisting someone else too. I think people feel lighter when sharing struggles, because it takes a load off of what we’re carryin’ with us inside. Not that we have to tell everything to everybody, but it helps to let some out in hopes they’ll keep our anonymity also.

  3. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    My goal is to listen, sometimes it doesn’t work out and I end up talking 🙂 However the comfort comes from being engaged. Sometimes a friend just needs to hear something that gives others the awareness that they are not alone and others have gone through something similar. A

    t a recent meeting, I was comforted that every person that shared said at least one thing that could relate too. We are people with a disease and disease has symptoms that lead to the root cause. Those symptoms are the common ground that connect us and let us know we are in the right place to heal.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful

  4. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    When you share your struggles with a trusted person it can make you feel lighter because it Fosters a social connection. It takes us out of ourselves and reduces stress and allows us to process our emotions in a safe trusted place

  5. Misty S Avatar
    Misty S

    I use to main line meth now I main line the program of recovery one day at a time .My gratitude shows in my attitude.

  6. Jay Rodriguez Avatar

    Being sober brings my whole family into a state of bliss and happiness. I recently visited my mother and visited with her and my nephew. We cooked dinner and had my partner come over. My mother looked so chill and relieved. I know that she is happy to have her son back. I know that brings comfort to her heart and if my mom is happy. WE ARE ALL HAPPY.

  7. Simon Yebio Avatar
    Simon Yebio

    Good reading today

  8. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    I listened to friend talk about his addiction, childhood, and going into a recovery home. Also, the person I’m buying my house from was feeling anxiety. I sent a message about myself and how much I will care for the home. I’m using money from my inheritance so I shared a very personal story about my family so she would feel better letting go. I didn’t need this as offer was already accepted.

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