How to Jiu-Jitsu “Our Personal, Private Solitary Pain” – Step 6

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From easy does it – “fear usually leads to irrational behavior, which, instead of getting what i want usually has the opposite effect. therefore, stopping and thinking before reacting, especially when texting, would be the more wise helpful thing to do.”

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How have you had success lately using your own pain or fear as the motivation for what you really want?

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Can pain and fear really become teachers instead of enemies?

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Riders on the Storm – The Doors (7:24)

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Beautiful Guitar & Drum in the Clouds Meditation (3:16)

English Analysis

Pain and fear often appear as destructive forces, yet many thinkers show their hidden value. In The Basic Text, recovery begins when pain shifts from obstacle to motivation. Viktor Frankl, in Man’s Search for Meaning, argued that suffering gains purpose when linked to growth. His insight mirrors the text’s claim that fear can drive recovery rather than block it.

Furthermore, fear carries its own paradox. In As Bill Sees It, freedom from fear remains a lifelong pursuit. Søren Kierkegaard, in The Concept of Anxiety, noted that fear opens possibility, not only despair. Thus, both texts suggest that fear does not vanish, but transforms through humility and acceptance. This transformation requires constant practice.

The words of Jim Morrison offer a haunting contrast. He claims we fear our feelings more than external violence. Nietzsche in Thus Spoke Zarathustra also argued that people flee themselves before facing true freedom. Both Morrison and Nietzsche remind us that internal battles cut deeper than external threats. Their voices challenge us to confront solitude and pain with courage.

Therefore, pain, fear, and solitude converge in unexpected ways. Rather than signs of weakness, they may point toward freedom. Recovery, philosophy, and art all suggest that embracing discomfort reshapes our lives. This process requires honesty, courage, and a willingness to sit with ourselves.


Citas en Español

Sobre dolor y recuperación
“Podemos temer
que al estar en contacto
con nuestros sentimientos se dispare
una reacción en cadena de dolor y pánico.”
“El miedo a la fatalidad es tan
grande que supera nuestro miedo
al fracaso.” “Aprendemos que
el dolor puede ser un factor
motivador en la recuperación.”
(El Texto Básico, p. 30)

Sobre ser amigos del miedo
“El logro
de la libertad
del miedo es una tarea
de toda la vida, una
que nunca puede completarse
totalmente.” “Sólo los
autoengañados afirmarán
libertad perfecta del
miedo.” (Así Lo Ve Bill, p. 263)

Sobre el miedo a los sentimientos
“Tememos la vio-
lencia menos que
nuestros propios sentimientos.
El dolor personal, privado
y solitario es más
aterrador que lo que
cualquiera pueda
infligir.”

– Jim Morrison (1943-1971)
Músico estadounidense / vocalista principal de The Doors


Análisis en Español

El dolor y el miedo suelen parecer fuerzas destructivas, pero muchos pensadores muestran su valor oculto. En El Texto Básico, la recuperación comienza cuando el dolor pasa de obstáculo a motivación. Viktor Frankl, en El hombre en busca de sentido, afirmó que el sufrimiento adquiere propósito cuando se vincula al crecimiento. Su visión refleja la afirmación de que el miedo puede impulsar la recuperación en lugar de bloquearla.

Además, el miedo encierra una paradoja propia. En Así Lo Ve Bill, la libertad del miedo es una búsqueda de toda la vida. Søren Kierkegaard, en El concepto de la angustia, señaló que el miedo abre posibilidades, no solo desesperación. Así, ambos textos sugieren que el miedo no desaparece, sino que se transforma mediante humildad y aceptación. Esta transformación requiere práctica constante.

Las palabras de Jim Morrison ofrecen un contraste inquietante. Afirma que tememos más a nuestros sentimientos que a la violencia externa. Nietzsche, en Así habló Zaratustra, también sostuvo que las personas huyen de sí mismas antes que enfrentar la verdadera libertad. Tanto Morrison como Nietzsche nos recuerdan que las batallas internas hieren más que las externas. Sus voces nos desafían a enfrentar la soledad y el dolor con valentía.

Por lo tanto, dolor, miedo y soledad convergen de formas inesperadas. En lugar de señales de debilidad, pueden señalar el camino hacia la libertad. La recuperación, la filosofía y el arte sugieren que abrazar la incomodidad transforma la vida. Este proceso exige honestidad, valor y disposición para estar con nosotros mismos.

Pregunta: ¿Pueden el dolor y el miedo convertirse en maestros en lugar de enemigos?

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Comments

7 responses to “How to Jiu-Jitsu “Our Personal, Private Solitary Pain” – Step 6”

  1. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Everything is a teacher if I take the time to be present and pay attention to the moment. And none stronger than pain and fear. When we face the very things that cause pain and fear, we prove to ourselves that we can beat our jabberwocky. Am I Sabrina, or almost Sabrina. When I face that which would defeat me and defeat it, I am Sabrina. With all respect to Through the Looking Glass.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful

  2. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    I’ve been taught two different abbreviations of fear…
    The first one is… Forget everything and run…. the second one is… face everything and recover. The latter one motivates me into digging deep and finding out the root cause. And it will be painful along the way but it will be a good hurt… facing it head on and not running away is one of the tools in my recovery box

  3. Ari L Avatar
    Ari L

    I think that pain and fear can be an excellent compass as to what we want and where we need to grow. It depends on the context of the pain. Considering that quote from Jim Morrison, I think that when dealing with internal pain that this is very much the case. Let’s say, our yearning to excel in one capacity or pain of not being as good as we want to be in that same capacity. Both are a compass to the true north of what we feel we need to be doing. Pain is the aspect of the equation that shows we are moving towards the desire.

  4. Elexi W.S.A. Avatar

    I’ve had success lately using my own pain to realize no matter what I don’t want to pick up another drink or any narcotics. I don’t consider me to have much fear, but worry can kind of correlate to fear, and I do that a lot especially when I’m in pain, or having a mental cancer like scare that just consumes me mentally. When I’m consumed with worry my decision making can become more impulsive. Intherooms.com is where I first went to a meetin’ that had a don’t drink no matter what meetin’ that I need to attend occasionally at least I feel again.

  5. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    Fear of financial insecurity helped motivate me to buy a home. Fear of not having a job is motivating me to take additional training and work on my career. But usually fear is more of an impedance for me than a motivator. I have always used the metaphor of standing on the edge of cold pool on hot day. I dip my toe in and don’t want to jump in but I do it anyway. Then I am so GLAD I did.

  6. Slim Jim Avatar
    Slim Jim

    I just walked thru some major fear today and had a conversation with superiors I had been dreading for months. I pray to listen and be present and somehow it went surprisingly well. This is God’s grace in action for me and it gives me encouragement not to dread the unknown as I have done in the past.

  7. easy does it Avatar
    easy does it

    fear usually leads to irrational behavior , which, instead of getting what i want usually has the opposite effect. therefore, stopping and thinking before reacting, especially when texting, would be the more wise helpful thing to do.

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