“Other people in our lives help us to develop trust and loving attitudes, we demand less and give more. We are slower to anger and quicker to forgive”. “We begin to feel lovable which is a feeling totally alien to our old egocentric selves.” (The Basic Text, p. 97)
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In what ways have you been loving and not just lovable, lately?
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How does showing love to others help you feel stronger and more alive inside?
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I’m Going to Love You Just A Little Bit More – Barry White (5:39)
Never Regret Giving Love Guided Meditation (7:16)
English Analysis
Loving shapes the human heart more deeply than being loved. The Basic Text explains that giving trust reduces selfishness. We develop patience when we give love freely. We learn forgiveness when we prioritize others before ourselves. Tennyson reminds us in In Memoriam that love matters even when it brings loss.
Furthermore, Bill Wilson in The Language of the Heart stresses stability through surrender. He shows that giving builds emotional sobriety. By offering compassion, people gain freedom from destructive demands. This echoes Aristotle’s teaching in Nicomachean Ethics that virtue forms through habitual giving. Love creates character when repeated over time.
Additionally, Erich Fromm in The Art of Loving insists that love is an active choice. He argues that true love demands discipline and practice. To him, maturity means learning to give without seeking reward. Love transforms because it asks more of us than mere desire.
Therefore, we discover strength through loving others, not through chasing affection. Love reorients us away from fear. It provides emotional balance and belonging. It roots us in humility, generosity, and forgiveness. By giving, we recover what ego once destroyed.
Spanish Translation
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“Other people in our lives help us to develop trust and loving attitudes, we demand less and give more. We are slower to anger and quicker to forgive. We begin to feel lovable which is a feeling totally alien to our old egocentric selves.” (The Basic Text, p. 97)
“My stability came out of trying to give, not out of demanding that I receive. Let us, with God’s [HP’s] help, continually surrender these hobbling demands. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then be able to Twelve Step ourselves and others into emotional sobriety.” (The Language of the Heart, p. 238)
“‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
— Alfred, Lord Tennyson (1809–1892) British poet
Análisis
El amor forma el corazón humano más profundamente que ser amado. El Basic Text explica que dar confianza reduce el egoísmo. Desarrollamos paciencia cuando damos amor libremente. Aprendemos el perdón cuando priorizamos a los demás antes que a nosotros mismos. Tennyson recuerda en In Memoriam que el amor importa incluso con pérdida.
Además, Bill Wilson en The Language of the Heart destaca la estabilidad a través de la entrega. Muestra que dar construye sobriedad emocional. Al ofrecer compasión, las personas se liberan de demandas destructivas. Esto refleja la enseñanza de Aristóteles en Ética a Nicómaco de que la virtud se forma mediante el dar habitual. El amor crea carácter cuando se repite con el tiempo.
Asimismo, Erich Fromm en El arte de amar insiste en que el amor es una elección activa. Argumenta que el verdadero amor exige disciplina y práctica. Para él, la madurez significa aprender a dar sin buscar recompensa. El amor transforma porque nos exige más que el simple deseo.
Por lo tanto, descubrimos fortaleza al amar a otros, no al perseguir afecto. El amor nos reorienta lejos del miedo. Nos brinda equilibrio emocional y pertenencia. Nos enraíza en humildad, generosidad y perdón. Al dar, recuperamos lo que el ego destruyó.
Pregunta: ¿Cómo te ayuda mostrar amor a otros a sentirte más fuerte y más vivo por dentro?
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