Some Subtle Reasons Why We Get More from Being Loving than Being Loved – Step 7

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“Other people in our lives help us to develop trust and loving attitudes, we demand less and give more. We are slower to anger and quicker to forgive”. “We begin to feel lovable which  is a feeling totally alien  to our old egocentric selves.”  (The Basic Text, p. 97)

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In what ways have you been loving and not just lovable, lately?

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What is one kind thing you can do for someone else today?

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I’m Going to Love You Just A Little Bit More – Barry White (5:39)

Rabbi Talks About Sin (2:56)

Never Regret Giving Love Guided Meditation (7:16)

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Analysis: The Art of Giving Love

The Basic Text outlines a quiet transformation. People cultivate trust and loving attitudes together. We demand less while giving more. The Language of the Heart suggests true emotional stability stems from service rather than endless demands. Surrendering selfish expectations sets wandering souls completely free.

Alfred, Lord Tennyson praised the deep value of loving. Giving affection nourishes human hearts profoundly. Meanwhile, a Higher Power heals our deepest emotional wounds. Wellbriety teachings echo this vital principle of service. “Healing happens when we share our love with others” (White Bison, 2002, p. 145). Generous acts displace old egocentric patterns. Compassionate actions build lasting emotional sobriety. We discover joy through loving deeply.

References

Tennyson, A. (2008). Selected Poems of Alfred Lord Tennyson. Wordsworth Editions.

White Bison. (2002). The Red Road to Wellbriety. White Bison, Inc.

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Citas, Títulos y Referencias

ALGUNAS RAZONES SUTILES POR LAS QUE OBTENEMOS MÁS AL DAR AMOR QUE AL SER AMADOS – PASO 7

PODEMOS VOLVERNOS AMABLES UNA VEZ MÁS –

“Otras personas en nuestras vidas nos ayudan a desarrollar confianza y actitudes amorosas; exigimos menos y damos más. Somos más lentos para enojarnos y más rápidos para perdonar.” “Empezamos a sentirnos amables, lo cual es un sentimiento totalmente ajeno a nuestro viejo ser egocéntrico.” (El Texto Básico, p. 97)

CÓMO ALCANZAR LA ESTABILIDAD EMOCIONAL –

“Mi estabilidad provino de intentar dar, no de exigir recibir.” “Permítanos, con la ayuda de un Poder Superior, entregar continuamente estas demandas paralizantes. Entonces podremos ser liberados para vivir y amar; quizás así podamos aplicarnos los Doce Pasos a nosotros mismos y a los demás para alcanzar la sobriedad emocional.” (The Language of the Heart, p. 238)

ALFRED, LORD TENNYSON –

“Más vale haber amado y perdido que no haber amado nunca.”

— Alfred, Lord Tennyson (1809 – 1892), poeta británico

Análisis

El Texto Básico describe una transformación silenciosa. Las personas cultivan juntas la confianza y las actitudes amorosas. Exigimos menos mientras damos más. The Language of the Heart sugiere que la verdadera estabilidad emocional surge del servicio en lugar de las demandas interminables. Renunciar a las expectativas egoístas libera por completo a las almas errantes.

Alfred, Lord Tennyson alabó el profundo valor de amar. Dar afecto nutre profundamente los corazones humanos. Mientras tanto, un Poder Superior cura nuestras heridas emocionales más profundas. Las enseñanzas de Wellbriety se hacen eco de este principio vital de servicio. “La sanación ocurre cuando compartimos nuestro amor con los demás” (White Bison, 2002, p. 145). Los actos generosos desplazan los viejos patrones egocéntricos. Las acciones compasivas construyen una sobriedad emocional duradera. Descubrimos la alegría al amar profundamente.

Pregunta Concluyente

¿Cuál es una cosa amable que puedes hacer por otra persona hoy?

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9 responses to “Some Subtle Reasons Why We Get More from Being Loving than Being Loved – Step 7”

  1. Eli???????????????????? Avatar
    Eli????????????????????

    I can control how I treat others. I cannot control how others see me. It’s much more simple, and much less exhausting, to treat others with loving-kindness. When I do that I feel secure in myself. I remember that I do not need validation from others. Validation, then, comes from my own conscience. And reciprocal relationships :p

  2. Ari L Avatar
    Ari L

    Being kind and inquisitive to the people around me helps. I definately suffer from debilitating self talk, but when I put the energy into caring about others, I feel better. I think it’s a matter of slowly dismantling the thought or being unlovable, and just giving what I’d hope to receive. It’s been working out better then sitting in pits of repression and depression in regards to socializing.

  3. Mink Avatar
    Mink

    In my addiction I had no capacity to love or care about anyone. I was in pure survival mode all the time, with no ability to really think about anyone but myself. At the time I feel like it genuinely helped me because prioritizing myself over everything else kept me safe. However it also led me to treat other people awfully. No that I’m sober I have enough self love to love others, and by loving others my own self love increases.

  4. Elexi W.S.A Avatar

    Showin’ love or care to others makes me morally stronger, and in buddhism compassion is even mentioned. Compassion for others in our communities are sometimes lackin’ for others, makin’ our society weaker at times. The care for others thus, strengthens our socio-economic statuses. Even spiritually I feel stronger when I’m carin’ for others. All I go through in life gets hard at times, but my strength through the hard times is in knowin’ I’m a good individual,

  5. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    When love is shown it spreads like wild flowers…it’s easy for me to show it…I’ve always had it ever since I was a pup…I’ve never hated…it feels natural and not forced…and whenever it’s flowing i can’t help but think of Jesus…the real kicker is, im not even religious…so I’m just rolling with the love from Jesus…

  6. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    I can only keep what I have by giving it away. Spend some time in the rooms and we’ll hear this mantra over and over. When I give something freely and without attachment or expectation, it generates reciprocal energy that flows naturally. Giving creates a joy unmatched, the happiness it creates is real and unmistakable. Give it, give it freely and without expectation.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  7. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    Slim Jim, I love you and didn’t realize it until now. Thanks so much for sharing on this website.

  8. Slim Jim Avatar
    Slim Jim

    The speaker said tonite that someone saying that he loved him and really meant it, is what made all the difference in the world for him and started his life in sobriety.

    So Easy, Margo and Brita … I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU JUST FOR BEING YOU. And that’s all anyone can ever ask.

  9. Easy does it Avatar
    Easy does it

    Boy I wish I would have realized this a few months ago ! It would have
    Saved me a LOT of heartache! If I would have applied this principal
    Would have discussed issues rather than lashed out and been accusatory. Now someone I love deeply won’t speak to me. Hurts…hurts bad

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