Some Solutions to Restoring the Relations We Hold Most Dear – Step 6

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“The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being.” (12 & 12, p. 53) on relations

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Analysis: Restoring Broken Bonds

Twisted bonds inflict deep emotional wounds. 12 & 12 reveals our core relational failure. We lack the capacity for genuine partnership. Isolation damages our most treasured connections. Therefore, healing demands intentional effort and vulnerability.

Margaret Wheatley notes that connection restores wholeness. Shared bonds grant profound meaning to existence. The Basic Text urges patience during this fragile restoration. Time proves our sustained personal transformation. Meanwhile, a Higher Power guides our fragile steps. Wellbriety wisdom emphasizes repairing community ties. “Forgiveness frees the heart from bitter chains” (White Bison, 2002, p. 145). Compassion mends every fractured relationship. We finally discover true belonging together.

References

Vachon, D. (2014). The Wheatley Reader. Berrett-Koehler Publishers.

White Bison. (2002). The Red Road to Wellbriety. White Bison, Inc.

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Traducción al Español

Citas, Títulos y Referencias

ALGUNAS SOLUCIONES PARA RESTAURAR LAS RELACIONES QUE MÁS ESTIMAMOS – PASO 6

FORMANDO UNA VERDADERA ASOCIACIÓN –

“Pero es de nuestras relaciones torcidas con la familia, los amigos y la sociedad en general de donde muchos de nosotros hemos sufrido más.” “El hecho principal que no reconocemos es nuestra incapacidad total para formar una verdadera asociación con otro ser humano.” (12 & 12, p. 53)

RECONÉCTATE CON AQUELLos A LOS QUE LASTIMAMOS –

“Debemos recordar el dolor que ellos han conocido. Con el tiempo, ocurrirán muchos milagros.” “Eventualmente se vuelve más fácil para ellos aceptar el cambio en nosotros. El tiempo limpio habla por sí mismo. La paciencia es una parte importante de nuestra recuperación.” (El Texto Básico, p. 41)

MARGARET WHEATLEY –

“Cuando buscamos la conexión, devolvemos la totalidad al mundo. Nuestras vidas aparentemente separadas cobran sentido a medida que descubrimos cuán verdaderamente necesarios somos el uno para el otro.”

Margaret Wheatley, escritora de sistemas estadounidense

Análisis

Los lazos torcidos infligen profundas heridas emocionales. 12 & 12 revela nuestra falla relacional central. Carecemos de la capacidad para una asociación genuina. El aislamiento daña nuestras conexiones más preciadas. Por lo tanto, la sanación exige un esfuerzo intencional y vulnerabilidad.

Margaret Wheatley señala que la conexión restaura la totalidad. Los lazos compartidos otorgan un significado profundo a la existencia. The Basic Text insta a la paciencia durante esta frágil restauración. El tiempo demuestra nuestra transformación personal sostenida. Mientras tanto, un Poder Superior guía nuestros frágiles pasos. La sabiduría de Wellbriety enfatiza la reparación de los lazos comunitarios. “El perdón libera al corazón de las cadenas amargas” (White Bison, 2002, p. 145). La compasión remienda cada relación fracturada. Finalmente descubrimos una verdadera pertenencia juntos.

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Comments

7 responses to “Some Solutions to Restoring the Relations We Hold Most Dear – Step 6”

  1. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Praying to God for understanding and patience. Keeping my side of the street clean and quickly making amends when needed.

  2. Eli???????????????????? Avatar
    Eli????????????????????

    I genuinely haven’t had time to go to meetings lately. I’ve been working some job or another daily. It worries me. But I know that the rooms are still there for me. There are places where it is simple to connect with others.

  3. Ari L Avatar
    Ari L

    Not having someone to trust is like living on a deserted island. I think that building trust with someone is like a way off of that island. But also the island becomes a place of enrichment instead of solitude. I’m maybe butchering the metaphor here, but the main point is that life is hard to go through without people you trust. It’s an essential function of being a human being and we are lesser without it, in my opinion. I hope everyone reading this finds someone to trust <3

  4. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    It all starts with loving myself first. Once the self-preservation has started everything can be restored little by little. Eventually face, humility, and acceptance replace pride and rebellion. Perhaps for the first time, we see a vision of our new life, and be trustworthy again.

  5. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    As I rebuild trust with myself, it does branch out to others. It is expanding to my mom and brother. There has been a huge rift there since some other non-addiction changes in life, which complicated our relationship. Yet, as life moves forward, we are working on rebuilding our relationships and trust. There are also friendships that are recovering too though not near as damaged as the relationships with my family.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  6. Elexi W.S.A. Avatar

    I like to be a pretty trustworthy individual, and ran into some people who don’t seem to be the same, so I’ve grown more safely distant to protect me from those who I can’t trust my things around. It would be such a beautiful world though if we could always trust one another, and didn’t exploit one another. I hope for society and individuals to one day be more trustworthy. My organization has really suffered since different thefts though, and people like that trying to forcibly be my friend still in the past. It’s a good thing that businesses have more accountability though.

  7. Rose Avatar
    Rose

    The coronavirus pandemic has put a divide between my school friends and I because my main source of talking to them and hanging out with them was school. No longer going to school has shifted the way we have to talk and hang out, and at first, I was not good at this shift. I would forget to talk to them and when they wanted to watch movies, I had already made prior commitments with online friends. I realized that they are my friends and to maintain our friendship that I loved, I needed to try and manage my time better. In order to do that, I created a club with them that has weekly meetings and I have been getting games that all of us can play and have fun with. I am not perfect and sometimes it will get hard for me to manage my time with them again, but as long as I try, I have done my best.

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