LEAVING NO STONE UNTURNED – “In Step Eight, we begin to rectify our wrongs. We begin to accept responsibility for our actions by listing the people we have harmed and by becoming willing to make amends to them all.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 54)
“VANITY, PRIDE & ARROGANCE” oh my – “There were cases, too, where we had damaged others who were still happily unaware of being hurt. Why, we cried, shouldn’t bygones be bygones? Why do we have to think of these people at all? These were some of the ways in which fear conspired with pride to hinder our making a list of all the people we had harmed.” (12 & 12, p. 79)
“The truest characters of ignorance are vanity, and pride and arrogance.”
“OUR REAL PURPOSE” – “Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about us.” (The Big Book, p. 77)
“The principle of service … is not a passive principle. To be of maximum service to the still-suffering addict, we must energetically seek to carry our message throughout our cities, towns, and villages. (It Works, How & Why, p. 152)
“Teach this triple truth to all: A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.”
– Buddha (563 B.C. – 483 B.C.) ancient Indian spiritual teacher
“There is a story about a cobbler written by Leo Tolstoy. The cobbler was living alone as his last son died when he was just 12 years old. He was a very pious person and whenever he got tired he was reading about god. One day he had a dream in which god came to him and said that he will visit the cobbler the next day. The cobbler started looking through his door next day morning when he saw an old man walking in the snow with great difficulty. He took the old man inside and gave him hot soup to keep him warm.
The old man thanked him and left.
Then he saw an old lady selling apples and a small lad tried to steal the apples. He called the young lad and advised him not to steal and gave him the message and paid the old lady for the stolen apples. Then helped a soldier’s wife who was carrying a child. He gave the child some clothes and gave the young woman some food. Thus throughout the day he was busy helping someone or other. He soon felt tired and fell asleep and in his dream he saw god. He asked god I was expecting and you didn’t turn up why? God immediately replied….I came in many forms as the old man, as the old lady, the young lad, as the Child and its mother. You helped me by helping them all.” (http://www.english-for-students.com/the-hands-that-serve-are-holier-than-the-lips-that-pray.html)
LETTING GO OF SELF-OBSESSION – “Most of us owe amends to at least one person who has also harmed us. Perhaps we haven’t truly forgiven that person yet. We must let go of resentments and focus on our part in the conflicts in our lives. We won’t get better…if we are still in the grip of self-obsession.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 55 on self-delusion)
FREES US FROM SELF-DELUSION’S PRISON – “Some of us, though, tripped over a very different snag. We clung to the claim that when drinking we never hurt anybody but ourselves.” (12 & 12, p, 79)
(Quote no longer sent in emails – “It would be difficult to dispel ignorance unless there is freedom to pursue the truth unfettered by fear.” Aung San Suu Kyi (1945 – ) discredited Prime Minister of Burma & freed 11/13/2010)
What truth(s) about your past have you’ve been afraid to face due to self-delusion?
The Self-Unseeing
by Thomas Hardy
Here is the ancient floor,
Footworn and hollowed and thin,
Here was the former door
Where the dead feet walked in.
She sat here in her chair,
Smiling into the fire;
He who played stood there,
Bowing it higher and higher.
Childlike, I danced in a dream;
Blessings emblazoned that day;
Everything glowed with a gleam;
Yet we were looking away!
Vaclav Havel Brief Bio
Havel was the son of a wealthy restaurateur whose property was confiscated by the communist government of Czechoslovakia in 1948. As the son of bourgeois parents, Havel was denied easy access to education. But managed to finish high school and study on the university level. He found work as a stagehand in a Prague theatrical company in 1959 and soon began writing plays with Ivan Vyskočil.
By 1968 Havel had progressed to the position of resident playwright of the Theatre of the Balustrade company. He was a prominent participant in the liberal reforms of 1968 (known as the Prague Spring), and, after the Soviet clampdown on Czechoslovakia that year, his plays were banned and his passport was confiscated. During the 1970s and ’80s he was repeatedly arrested and served four years in prison (1979–83) for his activities on behalf of human rights in Czechoslovakia. After his release from prison Havel remained in his homeland. (https://www.britannica.com/biography/Vaclav-Havel)
OUR PAST MAY INSPIRE PERSONAL CHANGE – “Even though we can’t undo the past, our experience has shown that we still need to look at what we’ve done and acknowledge the damage we’ve caused. Despite the impossibility of changing what happened, we can start to make amends by not repeating the same behavior.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 58)
LESSONS FROM THE DEBRIS – ” … having had cleaned away the debris of the past, we consider how, with our new found knowledge of ourselves, we may develop the best possible relations with every human being we know.” (12 & 12, p. 77)
“The Past: Our cradle, not our prison; there is danger as well as appeal in its glamour. The past is for inspiration, not imitation, for continuation, not repetition.”
– Israel Zangwill (1864 – 1926) Jewish UK, playwright and coined the phrase, “The Melting Pot”
REDEEM TODAY – “We give freely and gratefully of our time, service, and what we have found here.” “… working the Twelve Steps guides us from humiliation and despair … .” “The more eagerly we wade in and work, the richer our spiritual awakening will be.” (The Basic Text, p. 51)
How have you recently shared and given freely of yourself, lately?
Michael Vick Redemption from Dog Fighting
It’s hard for most animal lovers to truly forgive this guy for what he did, but in the end, he served his time and has not been caught doing anything bad since then, so you have to give him his due.
Mike Vick redeemed himself on the football field by becoming an even better passer after being away from the game for four years.
In fact, Vick’s career renaissance is in a league of its own. Nothing more than a bit player for the Eagles during the 2009 season—his first season back in the league after serving almost two years in prison because of his dogfighting conviction—Vick electrified the NFL in 2010.
Yes, he was a three-time Pro Bowl quarterback for Atlanta, but since his return from jail, Vick has elevated his game to a new level.
He has been more accurate than he was before, and more of a real, honest to goodness QB.
Oh, and since he served his time, no one should begrudge his return to the NFL. Even convicted felons need employment, and while most do not sign multi-million dollar contracts like Vick has, as long as he keeps his nose clean and plays well, that’s all that matters.
Football and professional sports, in general, is a business that entertains, and Vick does seem genuinely sorry for what he did.
Vick can never undo the horrific things he allowed to happen to those poor animals, and many people simply will never forgive the man. And that’s OK.
His redemption has come on the playing field. (https://bleacherreport.com/articles/989483-the-10-best-redemption-stories-in-nfl-history#slide1)
HOLDING ONTO THE NEW JEWELS IN OUR CROWN – ” … when we have difficulty practicing spiritual principles, we turn to the God [or H.P.] of our understanding. In this step, we ask a loving [H.P.] to remove our impatience, our intolerance, our dishonesty, or whatever
shortcoming is currently in the way.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 52) “One needs to be slow to form convictions, but once formed they must be defended against the heaviest odds.” Mahatma Gandhi (1869 – 1948) – India Independence Movement Leader from British rule
What spiritual value(s) have you defended at all costs, lately?
Value of Time :
Once, a king and a lazy man named Haria were very good friends. One morning, the king said, “Why don’t you do work to earn some money?” Haria said, “No one gives me job. My enemies told everyone that I never do any work in time.” The kind king said, “You can go into my treasury and collect as much wealth as you can, till sunset.” Haria rushed home to tell this to his wife. She said, “Go and get the gold coins and gems now.” “I cannot go now. Give me lunch first.”
After lunch, he took a nap for an hour. Then in the late afternoon, he picked some bags and went to the palace. On the way, he felt hot so he sat under a tree to rest. Then, two hours later, he got up to go but saw a man showing some magic tricks. He stopped to watch for an hour again. When he reached the palace it was already time for sunset. The palace gates had been shut. So Haria had lost a golden chance because he had not learnt the value of time. (http://www.english-for-students.com/Value-of-Time.html)
“Hostile, resentful, self-centered and self-seeking, we cut ourselves off from the outside world. Anything not completely familiar became alien and dangerous. Our world shrank and isolation became our life. We used in order to survive.” (The Basic Text, p. 4)
“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.” – Jim Morrison (1943 – 1971) U.S. musician lead singer for “The Doors”
How has “self-centered” fear given you grief, lately?
Now That We Have Tasted Hope –
by Khaled Mattawa, 1964
Now that we have come out of hiding,
Why would we live again in the tombs we’d made out of our souls?
And the sundered bodies that we’ve reassembled
With prayers and consolations,
What would their torn parts be, other than flesh?
Now that we have tasted hope
And dressed each other’s wounds with the legends of our
oneness
Would we not prefer to close our mouths forever shut
On the wine that swilled inside them?
Having dreamed the same dream,
Having found the water behind a thousand mirages,
Why would we hide from the sun again
Or fear the night sky after we’ve reached the ends of
darkness,
Live in death again after all the life our dead have given us?
Listen to me Zow’ya, Beida, Ajdabya, Tobruk, Nalut,
[L]isten to me Derna, Musrata, Benghazi, Zintan,
Listen to me houses, alleys, courtyards, and streets that
throng my veins,
Some day soon, in your freed light, in the shade of your
proud trees,
Your excavated heroes will return to their thrones in your
martyrs’ squares,
Lovers will hold each other’s hands.
I need not look far to imagine the nerves dying,
Rejecting the life that blood sends them.
I need not look deep into my past to seek a thousand hopeless vistas.
But now that I have tasted hope
I have fallen into the embrace of my own rugged innocence.
How long were my ancient days?
I no longer care to count.
I no longer care to measure.
How bitter was the bread of bitterness?
I no longer care to recall.
Now that we have tasted hope, this hard-earned crust,
We would sooner die than seek any other taste to life,
Any other way of being human.
“Other people in our lives help us to develop trust and loving attitudes, we demand less and give more. We are slower to anger and quicker to forgive”. “We begin to feel lovable which is a feeling totally alien to our old egocentric selves.” (The Basic Text, p. 97)
‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” – Alfred, Lord Tennyson (1809 – 1892) British poet
Once in Arabia, there lived a Sheik. He and his wife lived in a village. As she had no child, the Sheik married a maiden for a second time. By his second wife, he had a son. He loved his son very much and he grew up as a hand some young man. Sheik’s first wife hated the second wife and her son.
Sheik’s first wife began to plot against the second wife and her son. One day the Sheik had to go out on a journey. He said to his son that he would return home before Bakrid and he would bring him some fine gifts also. As the first wife had some magical powers she changed the second wife and son as goats when the sheik was away. When Bakrid was nearing he returned home and could find only his first wife. He asked her where his son and his mother were.
…
The First wife lied that his second wife died in some unknown decease and that her son ran away from home and didn’t come again. On hearing this the Sheik became worried but consoled himself that it was God’s will.
On the day of Bakrid Sheik asked his first wife to bring a goat for sacrifice. His first wife brought the second wife who had been changed as a goat. When it came near the Sheik it started to brush his leg with her tongue. The Sheik took pity on the goat and asked his first wife to bring another. So he brought the son goat to the Sheik. It also come near the Sheik and started to lick his hand with tongue.
Again the Sheik took pity on the goat. He said, “The two goats do like men. So I can’t kill these two.” Then the first wife got angry and said. “If you refuse to kill all goats like this, we will not be able sacrifice anything.
…
Just then a butcher’s wife passed by the way. She also had magical powers. So she found that these two goats were none but his second wife and son. Soon she went near the Sheik and said, “O Sheik! These two goats are your second wife and your son. They are under some spell of magic”. The Sheik was stunned and asked her if she had the magical power to change them to their old form.
The butcher’s wife took a small bowl from her bag from her shoulder. There was some water in the bowl. She took some water from the bowl and sprayed it on the two goats.
The very next movement they became his second wife and his son. He was delighted to see them as before. They told him what had happened to them when he was away. The Sheik asked the butcher’s wife to cast some spell of magic on his first wife. She also chanted some words. His first wife was changed as a dog and it ran away from there. Then the Sheik, his second wife and his lovable son lived happily for a long time.
Like Krishnamurti, how have you followed your own Sacred Heart to the peaceful resolution of a challenge you’ve faced, lately?
“We have found that God [or one’s H.P.]* does not make too hard terms with those who seek Him. To us, the realm of spirit is broad, roomy, all-inclusive, never exclusive or forbidding to those who earnestly seek. It is open, we believe, to all … .” (As Bill Sees It, p. 7)
“In oneself lies the whole world and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. Nobody on earth can give you either the key or the door to open, except yourself.” – Krishnamurti (1895 – 1986) Indian spiritual author
Across the years he could recall
His father one way best of all.
In the stillest hour of night
The boy awakened to a light.
Half in dreams, he was his sire
With his great hands full of fire.
The man had struck a match to see
If his son slept peacefully.
He held his palms each side the spark
His love had kindled in the dark.
His two hands were curved apart
In the semblance of a heart.
“Yes, we … did dream those dreams. How natural that was since most [of us] are bankrupt idealists. Nearly every one of us had wished to do great good, perform great deeds, and embody great ideals.” (12 & 12, p. 156)
“As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.” – Carl Jung (1875 – 1961) Swiss, psychologist
What steps have you taken to live the life you have always wanted, lately?
“Jung was the eminent adept of Freud and, for a while, a tireless fighter for the Freudian cause, that is, the universal promotion of psychoanalysis. He was influenced by Freud’s approach to the delicate problem of dream interpretation. Later on, Jung develops his own theory which includes several revolutionary features: subject level, prospective aspect, compensation, amplification method.
It is known that Freud interprets dreams on the object level; that is, according to the relationship between the dreamer and the persons or situations in his real of phantasy life. Jung introduces the subject level. What is this level? The fact that the dream reveals, in a symbolic way, some features of dreamer’s psychic life or of his internal psychic transformations. This way the dream becomes an indicator of those changes that sometimes point to the development of the individuation process.
Dreams are a cloudy picture.
So if someone dreams of his mother, the mother in Jung’s view is not an evocation of the real mother, but of the dreamer’s anima, that is, his emotional, feminine side. Mother can also be a suggestion to what is basically biologic in the human nature or can lead to the inherited background, the homeland in a cultural way.
Freud’s dream approach is retrospective; that is, it refers mainly to past events, placed back in the dreamer’s childhood (psychic trauma, sexual repressed wishes and so forth). Jung’s dream approach is prospective; he treats the dream like an inner map of dreamer’s future psychic evolution towards a more balanced relationship between his ego and the unconscious (be it personal or collective).
Talking about infantile complexes, Jung states, in accordance with his orientation, that complexes are not of importance per se; what really matters is what the individual’s ego does with them. This way, the complexes, even the neurotic ones, become raw material for dreams, the language through which the dream (the unconscious) expresses itself.
The mother complex,
for example, may indicate a process of development on the basis of some inherited features or life events that constitute the background of the individuation.
For Jung the concept of compensation includes another powerful idea: the dream is an attempt to counterbalance a hypertrophied ego. That is why the interpretation of dreams should seek to discover the compensatory aspects; that help the ego better adapt to the demands of internal and external life. In a certain clinical situation, as a result of a dream interpretation; Jung had to explain to his patient that she must resign her too rationalist attitude (as a consequence of her animus inflation). [I]n order to cure her severe neurosis. This way the dream becomes a message of the unconscious; that indicates several neurotic deficiencies in the individual life orientation.
Finally, Jung adds to the free association method, developed by Freud, the method of amplification . He states that there are elements of the dream to which the dreamer cannot provide personal associations.(1) These elements are symbols.(2) In this case, the analyst should intervene with his knowledge and complete the dreamer’s gaps related to them. The associative material comes from various cultural areas: mythology, religion, alchemy, folklore and so forth.
One must notice that these essential additions to the method of dream interpretation should not be taken over easily. Jung warns us repeatedly that dreams ought to be interpreted at first by Freud’s method. Only exceptional cases demand the use of his own method.(3)” (https://www.carl-jung.net/dreams.html)
