“… it may seem
easier to manipulate
outcomes or avoid con-
sequences, [cuz] we know
that we cannot afford the
price we would have to pay.
(It Works, How & Why, p. 47)
What is an example of a price you felt you had to pay to make you feel wiser today, lately?
“Many of us had lived our lives up to this point with a secret feeling of shame .” “Often this shame stemmed from unresolved guilt over mistakes we’d never fully dealt with.” (Overeaters Anon., p. 29) “A man should never be ashamed to own that he has been in the wrong,
which is but saying … that he is wiser today than yesterday.” Jonathan Swift (1667 – 1745) Irish satirist/writer
SHAME – Robbie Williams (4:24)
Simple Simon
“One evening, Simple Simon met a pie man. The pie man was on his way to a food fair in the village.
“Dear pie man, let me taste one of your pies,” said Simple Simon.
“Alright, but first you have to give me a penny. Then I will give you a pie,” said the pie man.
“I’m sorry but I don’t have any money,” said Simple Simon. The pie man smiled and left Simple Simon standing by the roadside. Simon did not have a pie from the pie-man who did not give a pie to the Simon because Simon did not give a penny to the pie-man.”
Everything has a price.
We have to pay the price to attain what we want. Otherwise, our life will not make a progress. (http://www.english-for-students.com/simple-simon.html)
FEATURED POST FROM THE ZONR VAULT – “i hate consequences! LOL, I like this comment its not shameful to be in the wrong… everyone has, the trick is to not dwell , live in the past, i’m wiser now, the key is to keep that wisdom, keep in the 10th step. its too hard to manipulate outcomes.” (Easy Does It, 9/30/2011)
It’s weird how much resistance I feel to saying I was wrong. The more I am able to accept that I WILL mistakes and that’s ok the less intense my defense mechanisms will feel the need to wall me off from others.
And then to realize, “I am wiser” for having admitted my mistakes the way I’d like to see things.
i hate consequences! LOL, I like this comment its not shameful to be in the wrong… everyone has, the trick is to not dwell , live in the past, i’m wiser now, the key is to keep that wisdom, keep in the 10th step. its too hard to manipulate outcomes.
I had not realized until recently that I had moved away from shame; I also feel less guilt than before. The gifts of the Steps is that I can move out of the shadow that clouded my thinking before – that I did not have enough, could not do enough, simply was not enough. I think that knowing and loving my Higher Power allows me more fully to see that being me is enough; I give back as I can; I try to find ways of relating to others from a place of love. And no matter what, I am exactly as my Higher Power planned…and that is enough.