Even if We Try to Pray it Away … Sex Lurks in the Undertow – Step 4

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“Yet, as with other addictions and compulsions, the costs are great. In this case, sex becomes a furtive enemy to be continually kept at bay, even at the price of annihilating a part of oneself.” (Sexual Anorexia, p. 1)

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How have any of your past sex relations caused you to feel shame due to “manipulation, ego, lust, or false pride”?

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Have you ever wanted something so much that you forgot to enjoy what you already have?

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Analysis: Beyond Childhood Cravings

We often chase unattainable desires. Language of the Heart identifies this immature impulse. We seek approval from a cold world. This hunger leads to profound frustration. A Higher Power offers a grounded path. We stop crying for the unreachable moon.

Recovery demands honest self-appraisal. The Basic Text emphasizes personal accountability. We own our problems and our solutions. Gratitude replaces our former desperation. This shift changes our perspective entirely. Viktor Frankl championed this vital sense of responsibility (Frankl, 1946). He argued that meaning arises from our choices. Wellbriety echoes this path to healing. “We find peace when we release our rigid demands” (White Bison, 2002, p. 45). Acceptance illuminates the stars above us. Our focus moves toward genuine connection. Peace awaits those who quiet their desires.

References

Frankl, V. E. (1946). Man’s Search for Meaning. Beacon Press.

White Bison. (2002). The Red Road to Wellbriety. White Bison, Inc.

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Traducción al Español

Citas, Títulos y Referencias

INCLUSO SI INTENTAMOS REZAR PARA ALEJARLO… EL SEXO ACECHA EN LA CORRIENTE DE RESACA – PASO 4

FRAGMENTO DE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART –

“Este sentimiento muy real de inferioridad es magnificado por su sensibilidad infantil y es este estado de cosas el que genera en él ese insaciable y anormal anhelo de autovaloración y éxito a los ojos del mundo. Aún siendo un niño, llora por la luna. ¡Y parece que la luna no lo quiere!” (Language of the Heart, p. 102)

FRAGMENTO DE EL TEXTO BÁSICO –

“En el pasado, creíamos que la desesperación nos daría la fuerza para sobrevivir. Ahora aceptamos la responsabilidad de nuestros problemas y vemos que somos igualmente responsables de nuestras soluciones. Como adictos en recuperación, llegamos a conocer la gratitud.” (El Texto Básico, p. 97)

NOW VOYAGER –

“Oh Jerry, no pidamos la luna. Tenemos las estrellas.”

Bette Davis (1908 – 1989), actriz estadounidense

Análisis

A menudo perseguimos deseos inalcanzables. Language of the Heart identifica este impulso inmaduro. Buscamos la aprobación de un mundo frío. Esta hambre conduce a una frustración profunda. Un Poder Superior ofrece un camino basado en la realidad. Dejamos de llorar por la luna inalcanzable.

La recuperación exige una autoevaluación honesta. El Texto Básico enfatiza la responsabilidad personal. Poseemos nuestros problemas y nuestras soluciones. La gratitud reemplaza nuestra desesperación anterior. Este cambio modifica nuestra perspectiva por completo. Viktor Frankl defendió este sentido vital de responsabilidad (Frankl, 1946). Argumentó que el significado surge de nuestras elecciones. Wellbriety se hace eco de este camino hacia la curación. “Encontramos paz cuando liberamos nuestras demandas rígidas” (White Bison, 2002, p. 45). La aceptación ilumina las estrellas sobre nosotros. Nuestro enfoque se mueve hacia una conexión genuina. La paz espera a quienes aquietan sus deseos.

Pregunta Concluyente

¿Alguna vez has querido algo tanto que olvidaste disfrutar de lo que ya tienes?

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8 responses to “Even if We Try to Pray it Away … Sex Lurks in the Undertow – Step 4”

  1. VLeigh Avatar
    VLeigh

    I am constantly wanting more than what I currently have, especially when I feel that I am not moving along my chosen career path. That’s when I forget to just enjoy what I have in the moment.

  2. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Past relationships are there to remind me of what I am not working to not repeat.

  3. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    Ignoring the regret for those actions can be harmful…. everything that is connected to that shame, losing your boundaries and all of that has to be dealt with in the fourth step under the sex relations column…

  4. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Willie Nelson said his life changed when he became grateful for everything he had. The has stuck with me since the first day I read it. It is a mantra that I try to practice daily. I am grateful for everything I have. While admitedly there have been times lately when I may aspire for more, I try not to turn aspirations into Lust. One of the tools I use for this is my higher power. Faith and trust that everything is as it should be and everything will be as it is supposed to become.

    Thank you for sharing in recovery. Grateful.

  5. Br. Buddha Avatar
    Br. Buddha

    Good morning everyone + happy Tuesday. Here is today’s thought. Give today your very best shot. Blessings. BB

  6. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    I still feel shame about my past, but nothing lately. But I will be doing my inventory so I will be able to start dealing with it.

  7. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    When I pursued sex it was to feed my inner need for intimacy. Today I know there are at least six types of intimacy and only one of them is sexual: physical, non-sexual intimacy, emotional intimacy, intellectual intimacy, financial intimacy, spiritual intimacy, and finally sexual intimacy. Intimacy requires my being trusting and trustworthy. Intimacy requires truth in communication. Intimacy requires conscious, mindful participation. Tall order!

  8. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    I can’t think of anything lately. Throughout my drinking life, my lust and alcoholism combined to do things I was ashamed of. I’m sure I’ve hurt people, but lucky for them and I, I never manipulated or caused anyone serious harm.

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