The True Costs of the “Harmless” Little Lies We Tell – Step 6

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“If one of our character defects is dishonesty, we can think about situations in our lives where we normally lie and imagine how it would feel, to tell the truth for a change.”

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What “big chunks of truth” were revealed thru a “little lie” you told lately?

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When did telling a small lie make things much harder for you?

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Lies, Lies, Lies – Thompson Twins (3:09)

Why People Lie (3;23)

Living In Truth Meditation (32:09)

 

Analysis: Swallowing the Truth

The Big Book demands deep introspection. We swallow massive chunks of hard truth. Honest self-examination marks a brilliant beginning. Cicero warned that one single falsehood breeds another. Small deceptions require massive fabrications later. Thus, dishonesty traps our fragile minds.

It Works, How & Why champions radical authenticity. Imagine a life free from constant cover-ups. Truth brings unexpected emotional relief. Meanwhile, a Higher Power restores our integrity. Wellbriety movements teach daily accountability. “Honesty builds the foundation for lasting healing” (White Bison, 2002, p. 74). Wise leaders inspire transparent living. We choose honesty over comforting deceit.

References

Cicero, M. T. (1927). De Officiis (W. Miller, Trans.). Harvard University Press.

White Bison. (2002). The Red Road to Wellbriety. White Bison, Inc.

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LOS COSTOS REALES DE LAS PEQUEÑAS MENTIRAS “INOFENSIVAS” QUE DECIMOS – PASO 6

TRAGANDO “GRANDES TROZOS DE VERDAD” –

“Si ya has tomado una decisión, y un inventario de tus defectos más graves, has tenido un buen comienzo. Siendo así, has tragado y digerido algunos grandes trozos de verdad acerca de ti mismo.” (El Libro Grande, p. 33)

POR OTRA PARTE –

“Si uno de nuestros defectos de carácter es la deshonestidad, podemos pensar en situaciones de nuestras vidas en las que normalmente mentimos e imaginar cómo se sentiría decir la verdad por un cambio.” “… [entonces] podemos sentir una sensación de alivio ante la posibilidad de una vida libre de tener que cubrir pequeñas mentiras con grandes fabricaciones…” (Funciona: Cómo y Por Qué, p. 46)

CICERÓN –

“Es un dicho verdadero que ‘Una mentira lleva fácilmente a otra’.”

— Cicerón (106 a.C. – 43 a.C.), filósofo y estadista romano

Análisis

El Libro Grande exige una profunda introspección. Tragamos trozos masivos de dura verdad. El autoexamen honesto marca un comienzo brillante. Cicerón advirtió que una sola falsedad engendra otra. Los pequeños engaños requieren fabricaciones masivas más tarde. Por lo tanto, la deshonestidad atrapa nuestras mentes frágiles.

Funciona: Cómo y Por Qué defiende la autenticidad radical. Imagina una vida libre de constantes tapaderas. La verdad trae un alivio emocional inesperado. Mientras tanto, un Poder Superior restaura nuestra integridad. Los movimientos de Wellbriety enseñan la rendición de cuentas diaria. “La honestidad construye los cimientos para una sanación duradera” (White Bison, 2002, p. 74). Los líderes sabios inspiran una vida transparente. Elegimos la honestidad por encima del engaño reconfortante.

Pregunta Concluyente

¿Cuándo el decir una pequeña mentira hizo que las cosas fueran mucho más difíciles para ti?

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15 responses to “The True Costs of the “Harmless” Little Lies We Tell – Step 6”

  1. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    Probably when someone said have a nice day today sir!… and I replied , certainly will! knowing full well that I would be out iand about in the 105° heat, completely miserable…

  2. VLeigh Avatar
    VLeigh

    Keeping track of the paper trail always makes even the smallest of lies difficult.

  3. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Lies aways catch up. I pray everyday to avoid such burdens as the need to remember who was told what. Simply telling thet truth set me free.

  4. Elexi (Lotus) Avatar

    At meetins’ I’ve had to come out in small ways of my struggles with substances, although I’m able to not have to give too much info. about my private life at least. Keeping somethings when safer also, gives me more of an opportunity to have a private life. We live in a world at times where our private lives don’t seem to be as valued. On the other hand releasing some of our truths to someone we can trust feels refreshing’ too, instead of lies.

  5. Eli???????????????????? Avatar
    Eli????????????????????

    Lying is exhausting. I prefer to take what people say at face value, when I can afford to. Regardless of if I believe them, it is simpler to kindly humor another than argue. It isn’t my job to try to somehow make others honest.
    For myself, I rarely see the point of lying these days. It just doesn’t serve me. It’s just a brain-drain,

  6. Elexi W.S.A. Avatar

    I think we start thinking lying will get us ahead, and then repeat the same mistakes, but when we’re honest we realize just how great a problem in our lives even more. Privacy is very important to me also, so I think I’m more apt to lie when I want some stuff in my life kept private.

  7. Ari L Avatar
    Ari L

    For me, at least in the past, I used to lie about so many little details of the life I’d lived to try and seem cooler or more interesting. Dressed myself up internally as a storyteller, but also felt that eventually I had to live up to the increasingly hard to live up to expectations created by believing my own lies. Safe to say, it changed the way I thought about and perceived myself and caused a lot of problems for me even though it started off seemingly innocuous. What starts as a white lie might end up a delusion if we aren’t careful not to start on the path in the first place. Our authentic selves are way more interesting anyways 🙂

  8. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    Lying or any character defect that I water will grow. Many of us cling to our Character defects because there is a certain distorted Security in familiar pain. It seems safer to embrace what we know than to let go of it for the unknown.

  9. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    This is a program of rigorous honesty. Those are nice words to say. It sets up a kind of moral supremacy that says, “we are ablove reproach, we are perfect in our truth” kind of mentality. And what a flip that is from past behavior. In my active using addiction, lying was just part of the show, not to mention the lies I would hear. One plug would tell me, every time we would go see them, “Oh wow, since last time all my things have been stolen” or “I just had another heart attack” either one, sometimes both. Nether were true. I told lies to the point of almost believing them myself.

    Believing them myself. That’s a core problem. And that is the behavior that no longer is prevalent and is less every day in recovery. What I have learned for is that it is the self deception that is the root of harm. The slow disintegration of ones self to be capable of doing anything is rooted in lies.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  10. Byron Avatar
    Byron

    Little lies are a snowball effect. I have to ask myself why I had the need to do that. Only then can I find that it has to do with, selfishness,insecurities, control, fear etc and then can i really become aware. I caught myself sugarcoating adivse someone asked. hoping to control how they took it when in reality that is selfish, and manipulative.” (Orig. post by Byron 9/11/2020)

  11. Simon Yebio Avatar
    Simon Yebio

    Little lies have always been more harmful to me than big ones. Little lies are the ones I tell myself and fester and become my truth the more I repeatedly tell myself them

  12. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    I cannot let the day go unacknowledged. I try to tell myself that people dying somewhere else has no impact on me and yet when I tell myself that, it is a lie. I grieve deeply for every unnecessary loss of life. I can only wish them eternal rest (dona eis requiem, sempiternam). And peace to us all. Namaste.

  13. Easy does it Avatar
    Easy does it

    Ahhh yes my old friend self justification.. Makes the surface feel better for a while but before I know it back on that same treadmill …

  14. Slim Jim Avatar
    Slim Jim

    Lately I’ve been struggling with these feelings regarding my co-workers. While I know, intellectually, feelings are not facts, its still a difficult to put them into proper perspective. I have to keep asking myself have I really forgiven or am I lying to myself about that and then trying to defend lying to myself because I feel justified in the way I feel.

  15. Easy does it Avatar
    Easy does it

    Lying can be an instant defense mechanism which can be directly tied to pride…another character defect which In turn can be tied to insecurity which also can be tied to self esteem issues. Dishonesty is a great tool to cover a lot of bases… But at what cost?

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