When You Simply Can’t Take It Any More , just Remember, “I Can’t, but We Can” – Step 1

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“A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity.” – Robert Hall (1764 – 1831) British clergyman (on friendships  w/ an addict)

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 Climb Every Mountain – Shirley Bassey (6:02) 

 Alan Watts’ Guided Meditation (14:48)

Analysis: The Courage to Be Seen

The journey to peace begins with one brave act of honesty. How Al-Anon Works describes the magic of shared struggles. We listen to mentors to find our own hidden strength. This therapeutic value weaves a safety net of hope. We learn to drop our heavy masks. Sharing our true selves creates a path toward wholeness. This path leads us away from the dark of isolation.

Often, we must look beyond our immediate circle for guidance. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions recommends finding a trusted professional. We must rely on those who offer true sincerity. This choice gives us the power to find specific help. Robert Hall urges us to seek friends with virtuous hearts. Such honesty allows us to bloom in the light of truth.

Brené Brown teaches that vulnerability is the core of meaningful connection (Brown, 2012). We flourish when we let someone see our battle. This transparency invites the Great Spirit into our recovery. Wellbriety traditions highlight the sacred power of the circle. “The community provides the medicine for the soul” (White Bison, 2002, p. 64). We finally rise up to say “hands off” to pain. Then, we surrender to the grace of a Higher Power. Every honest word helps us build a better world.

References

Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Gotham Books.

White Bison. (2002). The Red Road to Wellbriety: In the Native American Way. White Bison, Inc.

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Traducción al Español

Citas, Títulos y Referencias

CUANDO SIMPLEMENTE YA NO PUEDES MÁS, LEVÁNTATE PARA DECIR “MANOS FUERA” Y… – PASO 1

COMIENZA COMPARTIENDO NUESTRO VERDADERO SER

“…un padrino [o mentor] puede compartir con nosotros su propia experiencia con los pasos. Escuchar la experiencia de nuestro padrino y aplicarla a nuestras propias vidas es cómo aprovechamos uno de los aspectos más bellos y prácticos de la recuperación: el valor terapéutico de un adicto ayudando a otro…” (Cómo funciona Al-Anon, p. 56)

LA ELECCIÓN ES TUYA

“Sin embargo, puede resultar que elijas a otra persona para las revelaciones más difíciles y profundas. Este individuo puede estar totalmente fuera de A.A., por ejemplo, tu clérigo o tu médico.” (12 y 12, p. 61)

UNA AMISTAD SINCERA

“Un amigo debe ser aquel en cuya comprensión y virtud podamos confiar por igual, y cuya opinión podamos valorar a la vez por su justicia y su sinceridad.”

Robert Hall (1764 – 1831), clérigo británico


Análisis

El viaje hacia la paz comienza con un acto valiente de honestidad. Cómo funciona Al-Anon describe la magia de las luchas compartidas. Escuchamos a los mentores para encontrar nuestra propia fuerza oculta. Este valor terapéutico teje una red de seguridad llena de esperanza. Aprendemos a dejar caer nuestras pesadas máscaras. Compartir nuestro verdadero ser crea un camino hacia la integridad. Este camino nos aleja de la oscuridad del aislamiento.

A menudo, debemos mirar más allá de nuestro círculo inmediato en busca de guía. Doce Pasos y Doce Tradiciones recomienda buscar a un profesional de confianza. Debemos confiar en aquellos que ofrecen una sinceridad genuina. Esta elección nos da el poder de encontrar ayuda específica. Robert Hall nos insta a buscar amigos con corazones virtuosos. Tal honestidad nos permite florecer a la luz de la verdad.

Brené Brown enseña que la vulnerabilidad es el núcleo de la conexión significativa (Brown, 2012). Florecemos cuando permitimos que alguien vea nuestra batalla. Esta transparencia invita al Gran Espíritu a nuestra recuperación. Las tradiciones de Wellbriety resaltan el poder sagrado del círculo. “La comunidad proporciona la medicina para el alma” (White Bison, 2002, p. 64). Finalmente nos levantamos para decir “manos fuera” al dolor. Luego, nos entregamos a la gracia de un Poder Superior. Cada palabra honesta nos ayuda a construir un mundo mejor.


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7 responses to “When You Simply Can’t Take It Any More , just Remember, “I Can’t, but We Can” – Step 1”

  1. Phil d Avatar
    Phil d

    I would rate my spiritual commitment maybe a 4/10 because I don’t really have spiritual practices besides honesty. That’s the bare minimum. I don’t believe in gods but I think I would benefit from praying to the universe. I’ll try it and see how it goes.

  2. VLeigh Avatar
    VLeigh

    The safest person I know is my best friend – he has seen me go through so much, and watched it firsthand as my roommate. He’s seen me destroy myself, but also rebuild. I can tell him absolutely anything, and I know that he will not judge or share with others. He is a godsend.

  3. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    For me to rate my own spirituality would be a boastful prideful thing to do… true spiritual maturity is measured by my faith in jesus. How much Faith do I really have in the one I know without a shadow of a doubt is working in my life…

  4. Mink Avatar
    Mink

    I can talk to my sponsor about almost anything. I also have a therapist that I a talk to about almost anything as well. Between all my therapists and sponsors, there’s not many big things about me that I haven’t told at least 1 person.

  5. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    My housemates are also friends that I can talk to about anything. We all support each other in sobriety and genuinely care about each others wellbeing, wins, losses and hurts. We share laughter, good times and agave love.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

  6. Sabrina Avatar
    Sabrina

    While searching for a sponsor, I needed to find someone that has certain shared experiences and supported me where I am at. Not judgemental or pushy toward the theme of “What’s your part in all this, you are to blame”. The reason behind that is there is no person on this planet that is harder on me, than I am. I beat myself up constantly.

    In the search for being vulnerable, my goal was to find someone with serious common ground. Someone who also is a high performer, high achiever and yet relentlessly self critical and would turn that around as compassion to others. Hard on oneself, gentle on others.

    By being honest with myself about my needs, by being picky and not just going for the first, second or third person that raised their hand saying, hey I’ll be your sponsor, I found the right person.

    She continues to mirror who I am and in our shared self criticism. We both lift each other up and be that kind supportive friend that sees how our own self critique is a bit over the top and instead we reassure each other that we are okay, we are making progress and we are healing.

    Everyone needs what they need. And we do not all see things the same. Being self aware, desperately honest and rigorous in a desire to heal, we do, we can and we will.

    Sometimes, often, I can’t, however we can.

    Yes, we can.

  7. Miss Chi Chi Avatar
    Miss Chi Chi

    Qualities in my friends are many but most importantly their not judgmental and that allows me to be more open with them and that’s Respect…..

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