“Should other Friendships be Forgot … ” – Step 4

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“Aristotle considers friendships to be a necessity to live. He claims that no individual would choose to live without friends even if the individual had all of the other good things in life.” (anonymous author)

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Analysis: The Repair of Bonds

Friendships form the bedrock of our growth. It Works: How and Why mandates honest reflection. We must examine platonic ties with care. Ignoring these links leaves our inventory incomplete. Growth requires us to see every connection clearly.

Egomania creates dangerous traps in our lives. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions warns against domination. We often lean too heavily on others. These patterns stall our spiritual progress. A Higher Power guides us toward healthier balance. We learn to sustain ties through mutual respect.

Samuel Johnson understood the necessity of upkeep. He viewed relationships as living, breathing things. Aristotle also valued the strength of true companionship (Aristotle, 350 BCE). Good friends anchor us during life’s storms. Wellbriety wisdom encourages this deliberate healing. “We mend our hearts by mending our circles” (White Bison, 2002, p. 45). Kindness bridges the gap between isolated souls. Constant repair ensures our paths stay illuminated. We thrive when we nurture our sacred community.

References Aristotle. (350 BCE). Nicomachean Ethics. White Bison. (2002). The Red Road to Wellbriety. White Bison, Inc.

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Traducción al Español

Citas, Títulos y Referencias

“DEBERÍAN OLVIDARSE OTRAS AMISTADES…” – PASO 4

“…LAS NUESTRAS SEGUIRÁN SIENDO BUSCADAS” –

“Escribir sobre todas nuestras relaciones es muy importante, y querremos prestar especial atención a nuestras amistades. Si pasamos por alto examinar nuestras amistades platónicas en favor de centrarnos en las relaciones románticas, nuestros inventarios estarán incompletos.” (It Works, How & Why, p. 31)

EL POZO DEL EGOÍSMO –

“…es a partir de nuestras relaciones retorcidas con la familia, los amigos y la sociedad en general que muchos de nosotros hemos sufrido más. Nuestra egomanía cava dos fosos desastrosos. O insistimos en dominar a las personas que conocemos, o dependemos de ellas demasiado.” (12 y 12, p. 53)

SAMUEL JOHNSON –

“Si un hombre no hace nuevos conocidos a medida que avanza por la vida, pronto se encontrará solo. Un hombre debe mantener sus amistades en constante reparación.” — Samuel Johnson (1709 – 1784)

Análisis

Las amistades forman la base de nuestro crecimiento. It Works, How and Why exige una reflexión honesta. Debemos examinar los lazos platónicos con cuidado. Ignorar estos vínculos deja nuestro inventario incompleto. El crecimiento requiere que veamos cada conexión claramente.

La egomanía crea trampas peligrosas en nuestras vidas. Doce Pasos y Doce Tradiciones advierte contra la dominación. A menudo nos apoyamos demasiado en los demás. Estos patrones estancan nuestro progreso espiritual. Un Poder Superior nos guía hacia un equilibrio más saludable. Aprendemos a mantener los lazos mediante el respeto mutuo.

Samuel Johnson comprendió la necesidad de mantenimiento. Veía las relaciones como cosas vivas y palpitantes. Aristóteles también valoraba la fuerza del compañerismo verdadero (Aristóteles, 350 a.C.). Los buenos amigos nos anclan durante las tormentas de la vida. La sabiduría de Wellbriety fomenta esta sanación deliberada. “Remendamos nuestros corazones remendando nuestros círculos” (White Bison, 2002, p. 45). La amabilidad cierra la brecha entre las almas aisladas. La reparación constante asegura que nuestros caminos permanezcan iluminados. Prosperamos cuando nutrimos nuestra comunidad sagrada.

Pregunta Concluyente

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17 responses to ““Should other Friendships be Forgot … ” – Step 4”

  1. VLeigh Avatar
    VLeigh

    Simply by staying on the right path, I have strengthened bonds with friends and family, as I am slowly regaining their trust.

  2. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Living amends is the best way that I have found to show my sincerity to change

  3. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    I strengthen the friendships through sharing experiences, offering support during hard times and respecting them…

  4. Eli???????????????????? Avatar
    Eli????????????????????

    Checking in with friends frequently has been a firming way to build connection. We hold each other accountable.

  5. Ari L Avatar
    Ari L

    I don’t have too many friends, but I’ve been trying to make time to sit down and get to know those I do have better by learning the things they like and dislike. That way, I could be reminded of them when I see/hear things in their realms of interest for example, and have been able to expand my mind that way

  6. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    This is a challenge for me today that I am working on. Most of my friendships here in SoCal are based on going somewhere, and I am not mobile. I do stay on contact with friends remotely. I worry about tiring out my friends with the repetitive strain of my recent world. However, they have remained in my corner and I am grateful. It is hard to want to reach out when everything feels very negative. Those are my issues, and not theirs.

  7. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    One of our liabilities that we write about in step four is loneliness. Once we’re in the process of the inventory we learn how to deal with these liabilities. I started enjoying being in recovery when I first did the steps the stress was released writing lifted off the pressure and I started opening up at meetings and met some really good people and bonded some really good friendships to this day

  8. Tony o Avatar
    Tony o

    It’s a skill that takes time to learn and practice. I hope to reciprocate as much as possible.

  9. Simon Yebio Avatar
    Simon Yebio

    Perfect timing. I’ve been aware of personal relationships recently and have decided to make a priority to cultavate them. Loved the reading

  10. Bohdi Baba Avatar

    Keeping my friendships in ‘constant repair’ is vital. It’s also really rewarding. One thing I need to do is immediately be aware when I make mistakes and then swiftly make amends, which acts like an anti-bacterial ointment while the wound is fresh. It stings us both at first. But also clears away resentments before the ugly scabs start to set in.

  11. Br. Buddha Avatar
    Br. Buddha

    Good morning everyone + happy Friday. Here is today’s thought. Relationships. Some are big + some are small, but all are important. We are meant to be in relationships + not to be loners. When we are in relationships, we share our talents + our needs + we draw forth from each other the best we have to offer + to share. God bless us in all our relationships. Blessings. BB

  12. Jon G. Avatar
    Jon G.

    I would say that I do not depend on my friends enough. I either have difficulty asking for help and/or I do not want to burden or bother anyone. Often times I remind myself that I feel good when I help others and who am I to deny someone else the opportunity to feel good about themselves by being of service to me. Like so many other areas of my life I am probably being to self critical and compared to others I probably score pretty good in the “asking for help” department from others. I also need to remember that the only thing that most of my friends want in return for their help is my willingness to extend help to others when the time is right. I believe that is how this works and how it was intended–we pay it forward.

  13. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    I focus on friendships where I feel equal with them. Meaning they depend on me as much as I them. Emotionally and otherwise. And invest a lot in my friendships so therefore have a lot of great ones. I quickly feel uncomfortable if I haven’t spent time with certain people in a while. Friendships take investment. I can’t say that any of my friendships are unhealthy in any way. All is good.

  14. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    I was at the airport the other day waiting for the bus to take me back to Union Station. I watched as others hugged friends and family and were driven home by them. I realized in that moment that I have no friends and have chosen to live this life isolated. Contrary action led me to invite an acquaintance in program to have lunch this week. It felt scary asking, but it felt good when she accepted.

  15. Adam Avatar
    Adam

    I have a lot of really great friendships but I realize overall that sometimes they are such that I don’t listen to them enough as I’m too self-absorbed. Something I need to work on. Nothing specific and recent comes to mind though.

  16. Jb jr. Avatar
    Jb jr.

    Working on friendships is something I keep neglecting. its so much easier for me to just isolate.;

  17. Margot E. Avatar
    Margot E.

    Bill W. said this is a disease of relationships. I must take a sponsor and trust that individual when I have been unable to trust others in the past. I must share this program of recovery with others, become a sponsor when I have not trusted myself in the past. Steps 1, 2, and 3 have taught me I am not hopeless, I have a loving and caring Higher Power. If my Higher Power has not given up on me, then who am I to give up on myself?

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