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We can Rise from an “Unfeeling, Uncaring Oblivion” – Step 1

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WE AVOID MOTTLED POTHOLES THAT CAN NEVER BE FILLED – “[O]ur best thinking and self-will are what brought us to a state of despair and incomprehensible demoralization.” “[B]ecause we had never really taken any action towards realizing our goals, we got loaded and searched for an unfeeling, uncaring oblivion.” (Life w/ Hope, p. 32)

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In what ways has fear of demoralization led you to try to control and/or manipulate those around you lately?

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When you feel scared or sad, do you try to hide it or do you ask for help?

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Intimacy Disorders and Sexual Anorexia (6:26)

Oblivion Music Video w/ Tom Cruise (6:08)

Lifting the Veil of Oblivion Meditation Techniques (3:33)

Analysis: Shattering the Mask of Control

Self-will often drives us into a deep, dark hole. Life with Hope describes this state as incomprehensible demoralization. We chase oblivion to escape our crushing failures. Our best thinking fails to provide a lasting exit. We remain stuck in a cycle of pain and regret.

Control serves as a fragile mask for our internal terror. Overeaters Anonymous notes that even success fails to bring true joy. We often hide from pain through various obsessive behaviors. Patrick Carnes explores this in Sexual Anorexia. He highlights how we anesthetize fear through rigid self-regulation. Brené Brown suggests that “perfectionism is a defensive move” (Brown, 2010, p. 56). This behavior blocks us from connecting with our Higher Power.

Recovery begins when we stop fighting the current. The Red Road to Wellbriety teaches us about this surrender. “We must let go of our own small plans” (White Bison, 2002, p. 14). We find strength when we lean on the Great Spirit. This shift allows us to rise from the cold oblivion. True peace comes through honesty and spiritual connection.

References

Brown, B. (2010). The Gifts of Imperfection. Hazelden Publishing.

White Bison. (2002). The Red Road to Wellbriety. White Bison, Inc.

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Traducción al Español

Citas, Encabezados y Referencias

Podemos levantarnos de un “olvidó insensible e indiferente” – Paso 1

EVITANDO LOS BACHES MANCHADOS QUE NUNCA SE PUEDEN LLENAR –

“[N]uestro mejor pensamiento y nuestra voluntad propia son los que nos llevaron a un estado de desesperación y desmoralización incomprensible”. “[P]orque nunca habíamos tomado ninguna medida real para alcanzar nuestras metas, nos drogamos y buscamos un olvido insensible e indiferente”. (Life with Hope, p. 32)

LA ILUSIÓN DEL CONTROL PUEDE TOMAR MUCHAS FORMAS –

“Cuando intentamos controlar a nosotros mismos, terminamos desmoralizados. Incluso cuando tuvimos éxito, no fue suficiente para hacernos felices. Escondimos nuestro dolor comiendo…”. (Overeaters Anonymous, p. 5)

LA PROYECCIÓN DEL CONTROL –

“Muchos anoréxicos proyectan un mundo de estar bajo control”. “Para Shannon se trataba de ocultar su terror al sexo; para Ben se trataba de anestesiar su dolor y miedo”.

– Carnes, Patrick J. (2009). Sexual Anorexia, p. 38

Análisis

La voluntad propia a menudo nos empuja a un pozo oscuro. Life with Hope describe este estado como una desmoralización incomprensible. Buscamos el olvido para escapar de nuestros fracasos abrumadores. Nuestro mejor pensamiento no logra proporcionarnos una salida duradera. Permanecemos atrapados en un ciclo de dolor y arrepentimiento.

El control sirve como una máscara frágil para nuestro terror interno. Overeaters Anonymous señala que incluso el éxito no trae la verdadera alegría. A menudo nos escondemos del dolor a través de diversas conductas obsesivas. Patrick Carnes explora esto en Sexual Anorexia. Él destaca cómo anestesiamos el miedo mediante una autorregulación rígida. Brené Brown sugiere que “el perfeccionismo es un movimiento defensivo” (Brown, 2010, p. 56). Este comportamiento bloquea nuestra conexión con el Poder Superior.

La recuperación comienza cuando dejamos de luchar contra la corriente. The Red Road to Wellbriety nos enseña sobre esta rendición. “Debemos soltar nuestros propios planes pequeños” (White Bison, 2002, p. 14). Encontramos fuerza cuando nos apoyamos en el Gran Espíritu. Este cambio nos permite levantarnos del frío olvido. La paz verdadera llega a través de la honestidad y la conexión espiritual.

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6 responses to “We can Rise from an “Unfeeling, Uncaring Oblivion” – Step 1”

  1. Phil d Avatar
    Phil d

    When I feel scared or sad, I don’t hide it, I reach out. If I hide it, I isolate, if I isolate, I feel worse. Reach out be loud, be honest about the darkness. Closed mouths don’t get fed.

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  2. VLeigh Avatar
    VLeigh

    When I feel sad or scared, what I do with that honestly depends on the day and my environment. I will often seek out my best friend or my therapist, but sometimes I just try to push through it. I don’t know that I’m necessarily trying to hide my pain, but I don’t want it to be a burden on others.

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  3. Neyun Uzdlabayoh Avatar
    Neyun Uzdlabayoh

    When you feel scared or sad, do you try to hide it or do you ask for help?

    I usually hide it at first, but than let someone close in my life know what im going through . I try to find ways with my higher power first, but we weren’t meant to walk through our trials alone, when Creator has given us beautiful humans in our lives, that care about us .

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  4. E-Dawg Avatar
    E-Dawg

    I always go to my higher power when troubled, he is my comfort. 2 Corinthians 1 :3-4 says Jesus is the God of all comfort and the father of compassion providing strength encouragement and solace during times of suffering and affliction.

    Reply
  5. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    When scared or sad, talking it out with a friend helps to dispel the gloom and get those feelings out instead of absorbing them in. Often just by talking about them and hearing the words pass my lips, I can hear how powerless these things truly are.

    Thank you for sharing recovery with me. Grateful.

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  6. Sabrina J Avatar
    Sabrina J

    Demoralization, that’s a word and behavior I try to avoid. And still there are times when I have experienced it, generally around my own self dissatisfaction when I know I could have done better. I internalize, so the idea of lashing out at someone else is very foreign to me. The damage I do is internal.

    The Dali Lama talks about internal disarmament, it is a term that is not often used in western culture. Yet I find that every war that I personally fight, starts and ends within.

    Admittedly, I am not particularly found of this question, it brings a feeling of uneasiness. In my program, staying positive, focusing on things that improve my life and surroundings consistently bring fruit that nurtures me and keeps me totally out of the space that would add to demoralization.

    It is in my dis-ease, the addict behavior, where that world even exists for me. It is a term that, for me, represents a loss of humanity when positive behavior is lost and one gives into selfish inhumane behavior that is untoward.

    While hardships, challenges and obstacle always exist, I find that focusing my thoughts and energy toward self betterment and moral behavior, keeps me far away from its opposite.

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